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Tam · 06-24-2009, 11:04 AM

My 20 year old son was testing the waters on drugs and drinking and these are two things I don't tolerate even for a split second as their mom. Social drinking aside, he was driving drunk and so on.... doing really dangerous shit and I told him I'd have his ass arrested if I caught him driving drunk and especially if he had his daughter in the car with him, as I had heard he had done a time or two. I kicked him out of my house because of this, and trust me, nothing hurts worse than kicking your kids out in the street........ BUT........

I have 2 other kids in the house and I didn't want them to think for a second that this was acceptable. So I had a decision to make and as a result, I didn't get to see my grand daughter for about 3-4 months. I told him if it didn't stop, I'd take steps to take her away from him if this didn't stop... she was less than 6 months old at this time.

He moved in with his friends who were doing meth and he was headed down that road. He came by my house one day and I had gotten wind of this before he came in my door. I looked him in his face and asked him what his feelings were on burying his child, and he gave me the most horrified look like I had lost what was left of my mind. And he asked me why I'd say such a thing to him..... and I told him "Look, you are either going to put her in the car and get her killed, one of your friends will, OR you will get busted and lose her that way, but either way, you stand to lose her forever doing this"

A month or so later, he came back to us and needed to get out of that environment, I sent him 45 miles away from his friends to stay with his older sister, god bless her for being such a great sister, and he was a safe distance away to see what he was doing. Now he is clean and he has a drink or so every now and then socially, but he knows the limits and rules.

Standing back and doing nothing at all has never been my strong suit when it involves someone I care so deeply for..... but also coddling them isn't what is needed in my opinion either. They need to know that THEY aren't the only ones that stand to get hurt by their addiction, it's selfish to even go there, others that they care about are hurting deeply and they have to know this..... sometimes it helps them and sometimes they just are so wrapped in it that they don't care, but in MY head, I HAVE to do and say whatever I can to make them see that everyone around them is scared for them and hurts over it.

06-24-2009, 11:04 AM
Tam Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: In your face Posts: 8,484	My 20 year old son was testing the waters on drugs and drinking and these are two things I don't tolerate even for a split second as their mom. Social drinking aside, he was driving drunk and so on.... doing really dangerous shit and I told him I'd have his ass arrested if I caught him driving drunk and especially if he had his daughter in the car with him, as I had heard he had done a time or two. I kicked him out of my house because of this, and trust me, nothing hurts worse than kicking your kids out in the street........ BUT........ I have 2 other kids in the house and I didn't want them to think for a second that this was acceptable. So I had a decision to make and as a result, I didn't get to see my grand daughter for about 3-4 months. I told him if it didn't stop, I'd take steps to take her away from him if this didn't stop... she was less than 6 months old at this time. He moved in with his friends who were doing meth and he was headed down that road. He came by my house one day and I had gotten wind of this before he came in my door. I looked him in his face and asked him what his feelings were on burying his child, and he gave me the most horrified look like I had lost what was left of my mind. And he asked me why I'd say such a thing to him..... and I told him "Look, you are either going to put her in the car and get her killed, one of your friends will, OR you will get busted and lose her that way, but either way, you stand to lose her forever doing this" A month or so later, he came back to us and needed to get out of that environment, I sent him 45 miles away from his friends to stay with his older sister, god bless her for being such a great sister, and he was a safe distance away to see what he was doing. Now he is clean and he has a drink or so every now and then socially, but he knows the limits and rules. Standing back and doing nothing at all has never been my strong suit when it involves someone I care so deeply for..... but also coddling them isn't what is needed in my opinion either. They need to know that THEY aren't the only ones that stand to get hurt by their addiction, it's selfish to even go there, others that they care about are hurting deeply and they have to know this..... sometimes it helps them and sometimes they just are so wrapped in it that they don't care, but in MY head, I HAVE to do and say whatever I can to make them see that everyone around them is scared for them and hurts over it. __________________ "Want to get listed on The Porn Map? Email [email protected] or message me on Skype (TamboSpr)!" Last edited by Tam; 06-24-2009 at 11:06 AM..