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Originally Posted by GatorB
You obviously don't have kids. Using your logic banks should just let bank robbers rob banks since they are going to do it anyways. It doesn't matter if the sneak off and do it. Setting down rules that must be followed is not a BAD thing for kids to learn. In grown up world you get told NO very often. He might as well learn that now.
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Are you seriously trying to compare having sex to robbing a bank?
If your kid ends up robbing banks, you probably failed as a parent. If your kid eventually has sex, your kid is human.
The job of a parent is not to stop his kid from having sex, the job of a parent is to make sure his kid is aware of the consequences and risks involved, and knows to wait until he or she is (mostly) ready emotionally.
Have you ever heard the story about the teen who chose not to have sex because his parents told him not to? Neither have I, since it never happened. But on the other hand, there are many teens who choose to wait a bit a bit longer because they don't think they're ready yet.
The goal you want to achieve is a kid who waits until he's 16 or 17 and in a steady, long-term, monogamous relationship with someone he really likes before having sex - while using full protection (both the pill and condoms). If you do well, your kid will even come to you with questions - something that definitely won't happen if the only thing you say is "no".