Bud I believe the program we've just launched perfectly fit's your brief;
http://www.gofuckyourself.com/showthread.php?t=922182
The members of ANYwebcam.com are real people so we have a lot of what's termed BBW's and as a 'social networking' / community site there's lot's of Dating that goes on in chat etc ...
I hope you check us out and if you have any Q's don't hesitate to hit me up