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Originally Posted by sobaka
Why would he be doing "exercising or reading or visiting a museum or going hiking or spending time with loved ones" if that is not what he wants to do? Sounds like he is happier doing things by himself, it's very common for men. Doing things with others is probably somewhat of a drag to him; nothing you will ever be able to do anything about, should have figured it out before getting involved with him if that is a problem for you.
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Like everyone else, people act differently in the courting stage than they do in the comfortable relationship stage. Like I said at some point above, I don't have a problem with the activity in itself but I do have a problem with the amount of time devoted to it. I like to have threesomes but if my man only wanted to have sex when it was a threesome I might have an issue with that. Or... I don't mind that he does it as long as it's not ALL he does. And this is just me having standards for christ's sake. I'm not trying to be controlling. I don't expect him to find me attractive if I gain 50 pounds so why should I be expected to find him attractive if he's doing something I find just as much of a turn off?
If your wife gained 50 pounds and you no longer wanted to have sex with her because of it... would you just accept it or bring it up and look for advice and try to change it for the sake of your relationship/family?