Unfortunately, I'm not available right now. But hopefully your Marketplace posting will get some attention.
Like I said, though, this is really just JavaScript involved here. If you have a JS person - much easier to find than Flowplayer developers, you should be able to tackle it in 1-3 hours. Just have your JavaScript guy go here:
http://flowplayer.org/documentation/events/clip.html
and look at the following events for what you want to do:
onPause
onResume
onFinish
The content plugin info is here:
http://flowplayer.org/plugins/flash/content.html
Download the content SWF and put it in the same directory as the Flowplayer SWF. Take a look at the example code on this page for how it's done.
Getting to look the way you want is a matter of playing with standard CSS and HTML.