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Originally Posted by v4 media
Why is it coming down to you sorting things, has she not got any children still alive, other grandchildren? You shouldn't have to pay for everything if you can't really afford it.
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She has a son and a daughter. The son actually persuaded my gram to give him all her savings and he would pay her back within the year. Being the caring and generous person that she is, she gave it to him. He since moved and has never payed back a dime.
Her daughter, my mother, is going to try and help with the costs, but she doesn't have much money of her own to spare. Although, she's very generous as well and has actually offered to sell things in order to help.
The other grandsons and granddaughters only come to see her when they need money and have made themselves impossible to reach during this time and have not even visited her in the hospital.
I often felt guilty for not having a relationship with the family members I mentioned above (excluding my mother) because I thought they were selfish, shitty people I didn't need in my life. This whole situation has made that guilt disappear and reaffirmed what I believed.
Most importantly, my grandmother took me in as a teenager when I was a troublemaker and no one else wanted me. She always gave me a place to stay when I needed it, even a few years in my twenties when things weren't going great financially. So, I have a loyalty to this woman I can't break and must do anything I can to help her. She is the most important person in my life.