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Originally Posted by kane
It is a very long story. The short version of it is that his mom refused to discipline him. He did whatever he wanted growing up and not only did she let him when he got in trouble or caused problems both she and her mom (the boys grandma) would rush to his defense with a million excuses for him.
My brother tried to discipline him, but his wife would never follow through with it so all it really did was make the boy hate my brother and drive them apart. The boy's behavior eventually led to my brother leaving his wife and now they are getting divorced (it s a long time coming).
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Man that hits a nerve and pulls at my heart strings right there for a few reasons.
My son's mother and her mother did the same f'ing thing with my boy for 6 years and wondered why he was kicked out of every daycare he's been at then stuffed in a rubber-room by grade 1 and kicked off the schoolbus.
He has ZERO consequences. He can hit, bite, beat, torture, hurt and threaten anyone he wants. He was more-or-less rewarded.
It all finally came crumbling down when within a week he spit in his mothers face (got rewarded by pizza in the park to calm him down) and had social services step in to put an end to his schoolyard behaviour.
Now they have him classified as ODD (Opositional Defiance Disorder), have full-time nanny/assistant in class with him so he doesnt act up and so he actually does his work and has "nintendo" time when he feels he is about to freak out.
The boy has NO sense of responsibility, wants to kill everyone who disagrees with him and takes 30 minutes to get shoes on for school. HE calls the shots everywhere he goes.
Except here. he is a perfect angel here, knows what's expected and very very rarely does anything wrong at all. So I asked him why he does all this stuff....his answer? "Because you and Crystal (my new wifey) won't put up with anything and will give me time-outs).
Even with that being said to mother... answer is always "well you aren't always here, he'd do it to you eventually too if you had him full-time" and "he's sad, he has ODD". Always an excuse...
No he does not have ODD... he just always got to do whatever he wanted when he wanted and now in real life, he can't cope or deal with doing the most minute thing he doesn't want to do,, including school and not hitting people. Now they want to classify him as autism spectrum.. they told him.. so now his excuse is "I have autism, I cant help it".
Drives me nuts... pretty soon in process to do something about it. Next mental breakdown she takes.. which happens very often.. I'm going for custody.