I could use some advice. I've been through a divorce, so I know how things work when a court is involved, but I'm currently involved in a situation that I know won't likely end up in court.
After living together for two years, my girlfriend and I made an amicable split so that she could relocate from Ohio to Florida and she could be closer to her aging father. As my parents are also getting up in years, I chose to remain here to stay close to them.
We divided about 90% of everything. The only thing I really cared about was our cat... but I let her take him because I didn't want to turn an amicable separation into a mess.
Of the rest, she left a lot of things behind. Some shit no one needs, some can be replaced, some I would think is rather important.
4 notable objects she left behind that are unquestionably hers are: An Ovation acoustic, A Washburn bass, a Celestion telescope worth more than most other objects in the house, and a Salior Moon wand. The wand is special because it's mint, still in box, first edition and all that other shit people care about. Aside from that, she had owned it for years and I was shocked when I discovered she allowed it to remain here.
On the way out the door I asked her what I'm supposed to do with what she left. I know it wasn't an easy moment for her, the experience was shitty for both of us, so I've allowed myself to disregard her answer which was "Use it, sell it, I don't know."
I'll make it clear, I've no interest in the shit beyond her getting it back, never did.
Last night she called and we talked for about an hour. She brought up all the shit, and I told her I would be mailing the wand to her this week, if she would like. It's small, it'll cost all of five dollars to send.
She comes back with: Can you just mail me everything or do you think it would be cheaper to rent a moving truck and just bring it all to me?
As in: I left all that important shit up there for you to deal with and now I'm going to be a twat and assume you'll drop your life to bring me that shit. Oh.. and on your dime.
wtf? She went from not giving a fuck to assuming I gave a HUGE fuck... which I hate to say, I don't. Amicable or not, our relationships end exposed me to the fact that at heart she is a very callous and almost heartless individual. Selfish. Very selfish.
I'm at a loss here. If she had offered to send me cash to cover shipping or cover my time and the truck, I'd be happy to send it all or bring it all. The assumption that objects she cared enough for to leave behind should now be my priority to see returned to her really pisses me off. Like I said, I don't fucking care about the shit, but I feel like a line that shouldn't have been crossed has been crossed, big time.
I don't want to fight about this shit with her. We had an amazing relationship and even though enough time has passed that I've begun to move on, I still love her and the situation itself still hurts my heart to really think about. But her shit is not my responsibility... and I don't want to be the bad guy.
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