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Originally Posted by WannabeMiddleMan
I think you hit the nail on the head, I would describe myself as a people pleaser.
If my friends say they want to go for Chinese and I really feel like Pizza, I would go to Chinese and not say a thing.
If I really want to watch a new movie that has come out, but they want to watch Sci fi (which I don't enjoy), then I would go with them.
By doing this, by always doing what they want and by me not putting my foot down and doing things that I enjoy, I think it leads to me not knowing who I am and what I enjoy.
This could actually be my main issue - that I'm a people pleaser/push over and therefore don't know what I am, and therefore can't expect to portray myself to someone else if I don't even know who I am?
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I'm terrible (have been in the past anyway) for being a people pleaser, in certain situations. all I'll say is I've learnt in the last few years that if I say no to doing something I don't want to do, people aren't going to dislike me for it. For me personally it hasn't meant I don't know who I am, so I can't comment on that, but seems a person like you describes has a lot of issues with over-thinking and over-analyzing, and those 2 traits I definitely have. It's a fucker though as it ties in with being able to see many perspectives/angles on a subject, whereas most people, I'd venture to guess, have a fixed opinion. So then what happens is you come over as argumentative, when in fact it's just you can emotionally detach, and see those shades of grey. But I digress :-)