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Originally Posted by NALEM
I realize that posting the update on "Jenni" was only done yesterday on this board, but I sought general advance type assistance from Vegas based members on the other business board.
One member shared a link to a non profit that helps homeless in the tunnels, which I will thank them today. Other than that, there has been complete silence, as no one has gotten in touch with me directly.
If anyone here is willing to spearhead a online fundraiser, I would wholeheartedly cooperate with the following conditions:
- a trust is opened to benefit Jenni
- in the event that Jenni fails to meet her obligations of completing the counseling and the recovery programs and does not remain clean, she no longer has access to the funds, and the remaining money is either donated to a charity or is to benefit another person from this industry, etc
- My name is left out of all media related communications
- Someone other than myself is to be named Administrator of the Trust.
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these are checklist items you have already overcome based on subsequent posts. let the lawyers do the trust, do a gofundme and if it isn't used for an inpatient treatment center (and hopefully an out-patient boost afterward) then the money gets returned to donors.
if she drops out of the program (it happens, being clean is a process) then any funds unused if she does not return can be contributed to Pineapple or something. I highly doubt those inclined to contribute would be turned off by those terms
as to your plan(s), with all due respect you're a bit all over the place and I think losing the plot a bit which is supposed to be about Jenni right now, correct? website, media, what? we're a relatively broad industry and if talent and those behind the scenes donate you're pretty set
if you mean a larger project than Jenni for a website that protects people's privacy then cool and apologies for misunderstanding, but if this is a plan for Jenni then outing her circumstances on a public website is not what she needs, nor has she given anyone permission to create something like that. if the former it's prob not best to start a program til you figure out a strategy for the first person you want to help which is why you gotta focus on a plan that can be created to fit the person in need of assistance.
you have a prior track record with her, that is fantastic. build on that. keep in correspondence as the plan comes together even if it's just texting on the cheapest phone you can afford to give her. she needs to be a participant in this or it will not work
there are a bunch of things she'll need to overcome. post out-patient she's gonna need a decent job in a world that she will most likely not find supportive, having a history with huge blanks as far as what one can explain to potential employers. and no matter your circumstances it's a mind fuck to have to lie to people to be accepted. she's not a project, she's a unique person who is going to need significant long term assistance to meet her specific needs in staying well. that's where Pineapple could likely come in real handy - after she gets clean and is mentally and physically ready to take on the world
as to meeting with her for an hour and walking away as she was determined that her bf get treatment as well, 60 mins is not enough time to speak openly and honestly with each together and in private to make an assessment on her choice. he may be a scum bag pusher or he may be an equally damaged man who has protected her from violence (homeless women without a man are disproportionately subjected to sexual assault) and she doesn't want to leave him behind. he might be both. neither of us know. but having to get him help as well shouldn't be the reason not to get her help
if the point is to help people I'd suggest, he get's a fund for treatment as well but not at the same facility as Jenni. sick relationships fall apart real quick when peeps get clean in a healthy and supportive environment
if it's actually a real bond they can support each other in staying well after they get well, I've seen both and it's pretty hard to predict
either way someone on the ground needs to stay in contact with her to encourage her to commit whatever energy and willingness she can to a plan. you can't just drop in on someone's life and expect them to trust you, esp when they are already extremely vulnerable
I did street outreach for years before I left Canada so this isn't theoretical advice, and it's not meant to be insulting or condescending. you just can't start off in more than one direction out the gate with minimal current relationship with or input from the person you are trying to help
set up the trust, hire someone on the ground with an established record in the local homeless community to stay in contact with her (part of the gfm could be for that salary), push the link in our community and get this girl to the start of something better
I hope that helps, really trying to be constructive here and ready to donate when the plan gets sorted