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Originally posted by galleryseek
I was having a debate about this the other day with some friends who seem to have a rather fucking thick skull...
What is the purpose of marriage in the first place? I think everyone can agree, that if you're going to get married you outta strive to make it last as long as you live right? And, if you're gonna get married its reasonable to say you better know that person for at least a couple years, and you better trust them 100% before you make such a strong commitment.
But then, you turn around and bring in a prenup? What the fuck?!
You're stating in your marriage vowels that you will love, honor, respect, and stay devoted to that person for the rest of your life... but then you say, "Well JUST in case, JUST because everyone else seems to get divorced, we should sign this piece of paper". Bullshit, if you're gonna get married to someone you really love, statistics shouldn't mean dick.
I think if you're gonna get married, you go all out and not do it half assed and have an assumption that it *might* not work.
I say, if you have a doubt in your mind about it concerning the person you're with, you shouldn't get married.
Of course a lot of you are going to say, "But people's hearts change, life is unpredictable and it's best to be safe." Fuck that, when you force those papers to be signed you're showing your "loved one" that you aren't completely 100% trusting, confident, and devoted to her. In which case you shouldn't be getting married anyhow.
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I agree that it is somewhat contradictory but the reality is that the vows represent a romantic idea of what marriage is and ignore the realities, complications, changing personalities, goals, ambitions, wants, needs, desires etc.
In a perfect world, people should not get married until they know they are finished playing around and are ready to settle down. In the real world, people are idiots and there are a 1,000,000 reasons why a relationship can fall apart. You don't have to expect it to... but you can be prepared for that possibility. There is a difference.
Why do you need medical insurance if you are healthy? Cause shit happens.
