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Andy22 · 11-21-2011, 03:08 AM

So im dating this girl, been on a couple of dates. Im wondering when a good time to drop the smut bomb is? Im obviously not going to change what i do for other people but is there a good time to tell people about it?

Like if you have been dating someone a couple of months and they like you, i figure they are more likely to get over it than if you tell them straight away.

In the past ive just not told them, heh. Thoughts?

munki · 11-21-2011, 03:13 AM

Heart on my sleeve... at all times. You have a problem with what I do today, you'll have a bigger problem later.

VenzuelanChick · 11-21-2011, 03:17 AM

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Originally Posted by munki

Heart on my sleeve... at all times. You have a problem with what I do today, you'll have a bigger problem later.

nextri · 11-21-2011, 05:05 AM

The sooner you tell her, the better. You should have mentioned it on date 1. If she has a problem with it, she's not worth spending any more time on. If she doesn't have a problem with it, it will be good to be honest from the start. If you keep it a secret, your whole relationship will be based on lies from the start, and you will never get the right kind of relationship anyways..
Besides.. girls like guys who stands up for themselves and doesn't make excuses for what they do.

Harmon · 11-21-2011, 05:14 AM

Try to recruit that whore for promo content

Scott McD · 11-21-2011, 05:17 AM

Show her what you do for a living and if she doesn't like it tell her you're gonna put a sex tape you made with her on one of your sites.

Blackmail FTW !!!

you-big-dummy · 11-21-2011, 05:17 AM

I don't get this shit. Couple of dates and the chick hasn't asked you what you do for a living or you asking her what she does?
That's weird in itself cuz chicks are nosy as hell.

Anyway, have her bring it up then tell her "Im in adult". Right off the bat she's gonna think you do movies but clarify what you do.
What's there to be ashamed of?

MaxCandy · 11-21-2011, 05:46 AM

Sooner the better for both of you

Coup · 11-21-2011, 06:01 AM

When I approach a woman, my opening line is "I post naked girls on the internet"... Then I just silently stand there smiling for a few minutes.

Hasn't worked yet but that's because women are too dumb to understand my genius.

ottopottomouse · 11-21-2011, 06:07 AM

Having her pof profile open on your phone while at a bar counts as a date now?

redwhiteandblue · 11-21-2011, 06:12 AM

Dating someone a couple of months? By that time we will have already made a shit ton of porn together anyway.

Andy22 · 11-21-2011, 06:13 AM

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Originally Posted by you-big-dummy

I don't get this shit. Couple of dates and the chick hasn't asked you what you do for a living or you asking her what she does?
That's weird in itself cuz chicks are nosy as hell.

Anyway, have her bring it up then tell her "Im in adult". Right off the bat she's gonna think you do movies but clarify what you do.
What's there to be ashamed of?

I just told her im an affiliate. i do maintream / gambling stuff as well.

Sophie Delancey · 11-21-2011, 10:16 AM

I'm a lady, so I'm on the other side of the coin, but I am pretty straight up about what I do in life. If someone can't handle it, they're not worth my time most of the time.

MetaMan · 11-21-2011, 10:22 AM

You should just stop now. You're clearly a pussy because you care what women think. What most men dont understand is women want a man to not care and lead by example.

Not to mention you have been on 2 dates and you're already considering dating her.

Within 6 months some guy with a harder dick will be all up in her while you're paying for her meals.

How does it feel?

JFK · 11-21-2011, 10:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Andy22

I just told her im an affiliate. i do maintream / gambling stuff as well.

Internet Marketing is always a good

AJHall · 11-21-2011, 10:27 AM

I think you're smart to downplay what you do but I'd spill it on the first date. Maybe just say you're in marketing and you mainly promote gambling sites and adult entertainment sites. She'll either be intrigued/turned on or she'll run away.

MarkDeus · 11-21-2011, 10:34 AM

Actually this is part of my game. I always say I work in porn. I don't elaborate, don't give answers and just tell them "I'll tell you more when I'll know you more".

Bang. Mystery created, thus attraction. they will die to find out what I do exactly. USE that shit, guys! Makes you get out of the bunch of boring dudes out there.

On another point: I'm all about believing in what I do, and I am damn proud of it. If people are upset, they can leave the hall.

AdultEUhost-Sebas · 11-21-2011, 10:37 AM

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Andy22 · 11-21-2011, 10:43 AM

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Originally Posted by MetaMan

You should just stop now. You're clearly a pussy because you care what women think. What most men dont understand is women want a man to not care and lead by example.

Not to mention you have been on 2 dates and you're already considering dating her.

Within 6 months some guy with a harder dick will be all up in her while you're paying for her meals.

How does it feel?

Why the hate, im no afc.

Paul Markham · 11-21-2011, 10:58 AM

As most of the girls I dated were from castings, they knew anyway.

While I was part time it depended on the girls if I told her of my side line.

Barefootsies · 11-21-2011, 10:59 AM

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Originally Posted by nextri

The sooner you tell her, the better. You should have mentioned it on date 1. If she has a problem with it, she's not worth spending any more time on.

Agreed.

I learned in my early 20's that it is better to just get all of your shit out in the open at the beginning. Before porn, I would disclose the foot fetish as it's nothing I could turn on or off. If they were not going to be comfortable with it, no need to waste my time. Same if they like anal sex. I am not interested in that, nor will my mind be open to it. There are some other quirks sexually I have no interest in, as well as the drugs aspect.

I do not judge people if they like smoking weed, or want to be a crackhead. It's their life, and their choice. However, I do not want to be around that kind of stuff or risk being pulled over and they have it in their purse, or whatever. I have no interest in "sharing" in the drug experience and risks. Just a personal preference.

Getting such things out in the beginning saves you a lot of time ans annoyance. This is assuming you are actually looking for a relationship, versus just someone to fuck a few times and throw away. Most women are disposable pleasures.

VenzuelanChick · 11-21-2011, 11:05 AM

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Originally Posted by PornerBros

I always say I work in porn...

I use it all the time, its the best ice breaker!!!! Once I explain what I do, not as exciting but most people tend to forget the rest and remember that you work in porn.

MetaMan · 11-21-2011, 11:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Andy22

Why the hate, im no afc.

How am i hating by telling you the honest truth?

you're asking us to tell you its ok to hide who you are. Im not going to tell you what you want to hear, i am telling you what you should be seeing yourself.

MaDalton · 11-21-2011, 11:12 AM

after some recent experiences i'll postpone it at least until the next morning in the future ;)

VenzuelanChick · 11-21-2011, 12:46 PM

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Originally Posted by MaDalton

after some recent experiences i'll postpone it at least until the next morning in the future ;)

shimmy2 · 11-21-2011, 01:07 PM

i only date superwhores so this secrecy thing is not an issue. try it sometime, date a whore/stripper/pornchick you have some common ground with instead of a total square thats going to judge you. you should be proud of how you make a living

raymor · 11-21-2011, 01:21 PM

My wife wouldn't have talked to me for ten seconds if I led with the chin by saying I'm involved in porn. I also don't lie to my wife.

Generally I tell people I do internet security, such as log in systems. Maybe you do internet marketing. Next she found I told her I have many different kinds of clients. Then she saw code on my computer screen and found out I do really geeky stuff. Maybe you let her know that you spend your day analyzing traffic patterns or conversion ratios or whatever. Later she found out that Girls Gone Wild is a client, then she learned the names of other clients. I never lied, but did present the information in order.

CarlosTheGaucho · 11-21-2011, 01:24 PM

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Originally Posted by MaDalton

after some recent experiences i'll postpone it at least until the next morning in the future ;)

Now that sounds like something worth asking about

mineistaken · 11-21-2011, 01:27 PM

When I say that I am webmaster, affiliate or I sell memberships, digital goods on internet I never explain that its adult. And since I also do non adult I do not lie :D And there is no point of telling that. If you'll find yourself in longer (more honest) relationship you can mention that you also have site selling adult memberships..

Spunky · 11-21-2011, 01:36 PM

I tell them I'm a lawyer,baffle em with bullshit

RevSand · 11-21-2011, 01:46 PM

I stay vague (internet marketing and production) to ppl I 1st meet but once I get to know them at all its pretty obvious and I am open about it. If they have any issue then its their issue not mine.

MaDalton · 11-21-2011, 02:00 PM

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Originally Posted by CarlosTheGaucho

Now that sounds like something worth asking about

well, it goes like:

her: what do you do?

me: when i tell you, you will be gone within 5 minutes

her: no, no, tell me, i'm cool with whatever it is

me: ok, i run a porn production company

her: i need to go to the bathroom, be right back....

PS: no one of you is really "in porn" unless you are talent or behind the camera

waltgator · 11-21-2011, 02:01 PM

yeah just tell up front, if she is col with it, shes a keeper, if she thinks its gross or disgusting then she's not for you...

OneHungLo · 11-21-2011, 02:57 PM

If you're dating a girl that you like you should never come out and say you work in porn, do porn or anything like that (unless of course she is just some slam pig).

Most women don't want to date some fucking weirdo who works in porn

Babaganoosh · 11-21-2011, 03:02 PM

I always tried to be honest and straight forward. If you're the type that would be offended by porn, you're probably not someone I am going to want to get to know better. It's best to uncover an incompatibility early on.

I always try to make it clear that I don't enjoy porn per se. I sell many things online. Porn just happens to be one of them.

Internet Guy · 11-21-2011, 03:20 PM

I tell them I am addicted to free porn and collect unemployment.

CarlosTheGaucho · 11-21-2011, 05:14 PM

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Originally Posted by MaDalton

well, it goes like:

her: what do you do?

me: when i tell you, you will be gone within 5 minutes

her: no, no, tell me, i'm cool with whatever it is

me: ok, i run a porn production company

her: i need to go to the bathroom, be right back....

PS: no one of you is really "in porn" unless you are talent or behind the camera

That sucks, even worse that the word spreads and many "civilians" may then get these insanely graphic tabloid TV fueled totally non sense ideas about the filthy world of porn.

I'm very careful who I talk to about this, it even happened to me that I visited a certain smalltown some time ago and the word was apparently that I'm an actual talent

garce · 11-21-2011, 07:46 PM

I used to tell the women I met that I ran adult websites. I learned real quick to keep my mouth shut.

porno jew · 11-21-2011, 07:49 PM

you tell someone then they tell everyone and wild ideas get into people's heads. people are fucked and natural gossipmongers so fuck it.

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Andy22 Registered User Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2010 Posts: 78	When meeting new women do you hide that your a smut peddler? So im dating this girl, been on a couple of dates. Im wondering when a good time to drop the smut bomb is? Im obviously not going to change what i do for other people but is there a good time to tell people about it? Like if you have been dating someone a couple of months and they like you, i figure they are more likely to get over it than if you tell them straight away. In the past ive just not told them, heh. Thoughts? __________________ Check out my site: Solo Girls HQ Last edited by Andy22; 11-21-2011 at 03:09 AM..

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you-big-dummy So Fucking Banned Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Dallas, Texas Posts: 320	I don't get this shit. Couple of dates and the chick hasn't asked you what you do for a living or you asking her what she does? That's weird in itself cuz chicks are nosy as hell. Anyway, have her bring it up then tell her "Im in adult". Right off the bat she's gonna think you do movies but clarify what you do. What's there to be ashamed of?

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MetaMan I AM WEB 2.0 Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 28,682	You should just stop now. You're clearly a pussy because you care what women think. What most men dont understand is women want a man to not care and lead by example. Not to mention you have been on 2 dates and you're already considering dating her. Within 6 months some guy with a harder dick will be all up in her while you're paying for her meals. How does it feel?

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AJHall Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: Southern California Posts: 1,306	I think you're smart to downplay what you do but I'd spill it on the first date. Maybe just say you're in marketing and you mainly promote gambling sites and adult entertainment sites. She'll either be intrigued/turned on or she'll run away. __________________ Owner, Elevated X - The 4 Time Award Winning Adult CMS Software Company Used by More Than 2000 Adult Sites.

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MarkDeus Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Oct 2011 Posts: 643	Actually this is part of my game. I always say I work in porn. I don't elaborate, don't give answers and just tell them "I'll tell you more when I'll know you more". Bang. Mystery created, thus attraction. they will die to find out what I do exactly. USE that shit, guys! Makes you get out of the bunch of boring dudes out there. On another point: I'm all about believing in what I do, and I am damn proud of it. If people are upset, they can leave the hall.

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shimmy2 Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Dominican Republic Posts: 3,250	i only date superwhores so this secrecy thing is not an issue. try it sometime, date a whore/stripper/pornchick you have some common ground with instead of a total square thats going to judge you. you should be proud of how you make a living __________________ Make $$$ with Toticos.com! \| Email: 1bluemiata@gmail \| Joutube: ShimmyCash \| Faceberg: ShimmyCash

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raymor Confirmed User Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 3,745	My wife wouldn't have talked to me for ten seconds if I led with the chin by saying I'm involved in porn. I also don't lie to my wife. Generally I tell people I do internet security, such as log in systems. Maybe you do internet marketing. Next she found I told her I have many different kinds of clients. Then she saw code on my computer screen and found out I do really geeky stuff. Maybe you let her know that you spend your day analyzing traffic patterns or conversion ratios or whatever. Later she found out that Girls Gone Wild is a client, then she learned the names of other clients. I never lied, but did present the information in order. __________________ For historical display only. This information is not current: support@bettercgi.com ICQ 7208627 Strongbox - The next generation in site security Throttlebox - The next generation in bandwidth control Clonebox - Backup and disaster recovery on steroids

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