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As it happens, I'm a lot like squealer in using cutting/seemingly mean humour as a defence mechanism, amongst a fuckton of other things, and also funnily enough, I've never got so much pussy (albeit spiradically and in bursts) as the last 4 years since I came out of my marriage (with the 1st 14 months to get over the split in the first place), I'm sure thanks to being pretty distant, not wanting a relationship in any way, shape, or form (though not being a dick about anything), not running to answer texts or fb messages etc - not because I was running any game - far from it in fact - but purely because I was being true to myself for the first time in years. When I was ready, when the time was right, whatever you want to call it, and I'd had enough of one nighters, I met a girl who I've not too long ago started a relationship with, and that was by being 'nice' and 'attentive' etc - not out of any game plan, but just by being true to myself at that period of my life. Just in case it hasn't sunk in for anyone who may be interested lol - be true to yourself always, and you'll see how that's the best thing you can ever do |
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I wish this was a troll attempt to be honest. I've already wasted too many hours, too much money and too much emotion on this girl. I need to get over this so I can live my life again. |
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If my friends say they want to go for Chinese and I really feel like Pizza, I would go to Chinese and not say a thing. If I really want to watch a new movie that has come out, but they want to watch Sci fi (which I don't enjoy), then I would go with them. By doing this, by always doing what they want and by me not putting my foot down and doing things that I enjoy, I think it leads to me not knowing who I am and what I enjoy. This could actually be my main issue - that I'm a people pleaser/push over and therefore don't know what I am, and therefore can't expect to portray myself to someone else if I don't even know who I am? |
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not sure I buy that your 3rd post in 3 years was this thread (after your other 2 posts also being today), and the total opening up of some pretty personal stuff, but it's turned into an interesting discussion anyway
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Doing things to not lower my social value is something that I definitely need to keep in mind, I can see that I am lowering my value which is extremely detrimental. I don't want to show weakness, because that bruises the confidence and hurts the image. This is something I need to keep in mind and need to avoid. |
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Maybe you might enjoy the company of another man. Just to help you get over her and find yourself.
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I actually visit this forum regularly (almost daily, if not weekly), and I know the posters on here say it like it is - meaning they don't take shit and I felt this is the perfect place to try and get some straight forward advice, and more honestly brutal feedback such as grow a pair - because sitting alone listening to romantic songs and looking at a few photos of her and I at events is a bit stupid and I'm over having these emotions holding me down. |
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I see relationships as an investment, both financially but more importantly emotionally. I think I need to guard myself a little more and not go all in, as with this case. Quote:
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Here's the bottom line mate: you have to act as if you do not need them or want them then they will want you.
It's like going into a bank for a loan. When you actually NEED the money you will probably get turned down for this reason or that. But if you have tons of money banks will fall all over themselves to give you more. This is why I mentioned Cary Grant and TheSquealer mentioned James Bond. Act as if you are the person you want to become and you WILL become that person. You are spending way too much time here "taking notes" when mostly everything we are telling you comes from an unconscious place, a natural place without having to think about it. There are 4 stages of mastery. Anyone who has driven a stick shift car will know what I am talking about. Stage 1: Unconscious INcompetance: You don't know jack shit and you don't even know you don't know jack shit. Stage 2: Conscious Incompetance: You don't know jack shit but now at least you KNOW you don't know jack shit - and are opening to learning. Stage 3: Conscious Competance: You are getting better but you still have to "think" about it, check your notes, follow a script. Until... Stage 4: UNconscious Competance: You just KNOW how to do something. Driving that stick shift is so natural now you don't even think about the clutch or shifting. It's become a part of you. It takes time and experience to get to Stage 4 in any endeavor but if you are aware of where you stand (I am guessing Stage 2 right now) you can get there much faster. In other words: Zen. "Be, do not do." Is that Zen? LOL (Have not seen Suits but will check it out for sure.)
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I saw she had a local registration plate, which was good - so she walked into the club with another female, she looked around and then went to the balcony. The whole time I was observing. The two of them stayed there and I was trying to muster up the courage to go talk to them. I thought maybe they didn't know anyone, but I wasn't sure. A few minutes later a guy walked up to them, and they chatted. Now I was getting pissed with myself because that could have been me. Then they went into the club and another guy spoke to them, now I was in third place. Eventually they sat close to me and I mustered up the courage, the one I liked was alone so I put my hand out, introduced myself and asked the basic questions such as: 1. Do you come here often 2. What do you do, we chatted about her job, education etc and then mine 3. I asked about pets, I'm a huge cat fan and that gives me an opportunity to show them pictures of my cat on my phone. (hope this isn't showing weakness?) 4. I show them a picture of when I had a beard and I ask their opinion if it looked good 5. We chatted about some other mundane things I usually offer her a drink after some chatting, or if I feel the chatting has got slower or has stopped. If they say no I am a little taken back, but I try to keep the convo going then. At this stage I started to sweat, but I could feel it was a lot of sweat, the type that sweat beads started to form on my forehead and under my nose etc (sadly this happens when I'm nervous or in a sticky situation - I sweat, a lot!). So I faked a phone call to walk away and wipe the sweat with a handkerchief. I got a drink and later got back, now a little cooled down and we chatted a little more. This above is basically how all my encounters have gone so far, any advice on what I'm doing? Are my topics terrible? They do seem boring, but that's how I've mainly been doing it? |
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1. The more you tighten your grip, the more will slip through your fingers 2. life is like a fart... if you have to force it, it's likely to turn into a shit Relax, go with the flow of life, don't force things, be like water that naturally runs around rocks and gets to where it gets to, not the water that crashes into the rocks over and over Sounds like tree-hugging hippie bullshit I realise lol, but once that became clear for me, it made all the difference in the world. That may not be your thing, horses for courses and all that, but it's just another way of looking at the 'be true to yourself' thing |
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For example, I recently had a check up at the Doctors and I was asked to pee in a cup. I asked the nurse if this was for a drug test, to which she replied, no it was to test for proteins. A few hours later I thought about that conversation and I was shocked that I asked that, I think I basically gave her the impression that I was worried about drugs etc. And then I worry about how she looked at me, does she now think I take drugs, is she guessing what drugs I might have taken etc. Thinking about it now, it would have been much better to ask, "What does the urine test, test?" |
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I got the girl I liked when I stopped being a wimp and grew a pair. Then she was (and still is) all over it.
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I would like to be more interesting, and like you say - that will take some pressure off on the other aspects of looks etc. Quote:
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If you tried to completely change from nice guy to bad boy you would probably fail because it would not flow naturally for yo at all. So just start with eliminating neediness out of your interaction and add some indifference instead. For starters. |
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That would definitely be something to talk about. I need to do more cool things! |
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The vast majority of males fear rejection - and EVERY male gets rejected and that includes the top alpha males with looks, money and status. They just get rejected less and by better looking females. With every rejection the fear grows with many guys. It's a numbers game pure and simple, every guy I know who is great with women either naturally doesn't care about rejection much or he's trained himself not to care. He'll hit on 10 women knowing all that matters is 1. For a guy with a lot going for him he may hit on 1 of 5, another guy it might be 1 in 20.
The other fact of life is that people need to 'know their role', 'stay in their lane', 'don't punch out of your weight class' - if you're a '6 out of 10' guy, you're not ever going to date a 8/9/10, without paying for it. Until a guy comes to terms with that and lowers his expectations porn and escorts will have to do. Escorting, thanks to the Internet, continues to get more and more popular. Sociopaths do well with women because they have supreme confidence, ill placed often but that doesn't matter to women, until it's too late and the sociopath has ruined their life.
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Thank you for that explanation, very useful - you're right - I don't think I'm good at this, but I do realise its a problem and I'm going to actively put in work and try to improve, which is a great start. I have a goal of wanting to get a girls number from the shopping centre or to pick up a server, that would be pretty awesome! |
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I agree, rejection is the worry - but I need to learn to deal with the sting and be able to get into the next girl, fearing rejection will stop me from getting any where. It's those instances where I wanted to talk to a girl, but I didn't have the courage that I regret, no the girl I offered a drink and she said no. I try and remind myself of those opportunities that I chickened out and didn't talk to in order to avoid them again, I say to myself: "No regrets" and then I walk up and introduce myself and hope for the best |
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fwiw, I now just accept (most of the time anyway) that's part of what makes me me, and all the good shit that makes me easy-going, approachable, mostly friendly, blahblah etcetc because if I don't, I end up over-analyzing *that* shit, and on the vicious cycle goes. |
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Silently gesture for her friend to come over and tell her to be discreet, but tell her this guy is wanted by the FBI and authorities are on their way and ask that they try to keep him talking, in one place and don't act suspicious. She'll immediately call her friend to the bathroom and tell her. Then they'll also have to start asking who you are, how you know and you just became the most fascinating person they've met so far that night. You can be more fascinating depending on what you say next and where you lead things. Or let her know he's the guy from the ad campaign for herpes medication or something and to use protection if her intent is to hook up with him. Advise that it would be for her to tell her friend in the interest of safety and say you only know because he gets called out a lot and always denies it. It's an example of 1,000,000 things you could do or say in the moment to be both playful and get rid of him. Who will they want to talk to after that? Particularly when they know you're just fucking around? Who is now the funnest more interesting guy around them? I'm so random with this shit, that my friends all cringe when i open my mouth in public places. Quote:
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going with the flow/stopped caring - we probably name it different, and have slightly different perceptions of it, but I can understand that totally and agree. it's pretty much subconscious to a certain degree once you hit the first 'not caring' instance of whatever it is... it spills into everything (most things) and becomes like porn nerds stick shift analogy (which I also use a hell of a lot btw PN) but on many things rather than a specific thing
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lmfao I missed this part "3. I asked about pets, I'm a huge cat fan and that gives me an opportunity to show them pictures of my cat on my phone. (hope this isn't showing weakness?)
4. I show them a picture of when I had a beard and I ask their opinion if it looked good" 100% troll, but like I say, interesting discussion anyway |
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This is definitely something that needs to be practised, but I'm up for the challenge - I just hope I can get half as creative and maybe the outcome will be a little different. Yeah, the sweating thing is a problem - I need to work on it (hopefully its possible) |
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Then I discuss how I like cats because they are very independent, they do their own thing. If a cat wants affection then it will come to you, if not then it will do its own thing, and I compare this to dogs who are always wanting affection. People say dogs have owners, but cats have slaves etc I'm seriously trying to improve here, I guarantee you no troll attempt (this is actually the second time a serious thread of mine has been called a troll attempt) - I guess I just need to discuss pretty fucked up topics |
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I always go the opposite direction. "I don't mind cats too much. To be honest, i'm a little terrified of them. When i was 5 , my father was attacked by several cats as we walked through an alley and almost died. I still vividly remember holding his hand before the ambulance came with him saying goodbye to me and telling me that he loves me. It was really hard on me. There was a lot of blood". "really, are you serious" "of course not! what the hell is wrong with you?! why would you even believe that? Are you always so gullible?"
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With your approach, you're making a joke, you're testing their humour and you're not agreeing with them. Dam, this is tough. My approach has been straight forward, which seems boring and uninteresting. Your approach is extremely creative, and grabs their attention. |
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