GFY Advice
 

If you knew someone was cheating would you tell? One of my sisters friends hads been cheating on her boyfriend the whole 2 years they have been together. The poor guy is a really nice guy and I feel bad for him but should I tell him or just let it be?


The worst part is everyone knows but no one wants to break his heart. If my boyfriend was cheating I would want to know wouldn't you?

if you feel bad for the guy, tell him. its one thing if the girl cheated once, felt bad about it and stopped. but if she is continually cheating why even bother being in the relationship? just don't get yourself caught up in the drama....

Mind your own business.

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Good advice. Maybe it's a cuckold relationship.

this x about a million.

my cousin recently broke it off with her bf, then *kinda* got back with him and told me, i thought she was still on the fence so i thought i was helping her by telling her her decision to leave the dude was a good one and she can stick with it. well, next thing you know they are engaged and i have egg on my face for not supporting my cousin.

Yeah, believe it or not there's alot of people that don't want to know. If he's happy why rock his world?

Get in the middle of any sort of relationship and you will end up regretting it, big time.

yep first thing he will say is so and so told me :1orglaugh

i would take a guess and say most people who say mind your own business have cheated themselves at some point or another.

wait, so you are not friends with the person you are thinking of dropping this bomb on?

Most people who say mind your own business have at one point not minded their own business.

If you want to help your friend, set up some way for him to find out on his own, preferably without him knowing you know. It's gonna strain your relationship with him otherwise, he will very likely blame you somehow or at least associate you with the mess subconsciously.

The worst thing about a chick running around behind your back is that people seeing you as being a pushover, so spare him that at least, even if you can't spare him being actually cheated on.

Agreed ..if they are friends enough of yours to call them your friend vs your sister's then you aren't close enough to them to be getting involved in their relationship.

No I can't stand the girl.


:2 cents:

Who gives a fuck if she or he becomes pissed off when you spill the beans.
Who wants a untrustworthy bitch like her as a friend. Perhaps he thinks she's the only pussy he can get so best deal with her bullshit.
Now let him dip his unprotected dick in her and wind up catching some serious STD.
Tell him what the fuck is going on is what I say!

A buddy of mine had a killer employment tech opportunity in Washington. His girl wanted to stay Tennessee. He decided to stay with her now his dumb ass is working at a fucking tooth pic factory alongside ppl with teeth broken off at the gum line.

Too many unanswered questions to do anything but mind your own business.
Is she cheating with the same guy/woman/couple?
Is their relationship a "perfect" one in his opinion? In hers?
Are there children?
Is one financially dependent on the other?
Does one have medical problems?
Etc, etc, etc

There are many reasons someone cheats, there are many reasons the one cheated on will sometimes look the other way.

Just remember once you throw a rock you can't stop the splash or the ripples.

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She's not my friend so I can't answer the book of question I just know she's had sex with several guy's.

I always take the high road, shut my mouth, and stay out of it. None of my fucking business.

I'm not close to my family, but my wife is close to hers. And we both stay out of their business.

Stop meddling ...

My point is sometimes it's more than just a cheating cunt. If all you see is fragments of their relationship what gives you the right to alter the lives of others.

If you went to work and your girlfriend had guy's in and out of the house would you wanta know?

i think i see what is going on here.

go for it! spill the beans.

Yes, but see you didn't share that in your first post. This is what i meant by having to know the facts.

how does any of this have anything to do with you?

your sisters friends boyfriend?



real problems, you need.

Put it in your Facebook status and see how many likes it gets then take it from there.

Take a few pictures and send it to him anonymously.

Wait... Is she hot? maybe one of us can take a turn before you shut down the fun park..

So, you are just meddling. It is none of your business and unless you have seen her blowing a guy you do not know for fact what is going on.

Yeah exactly, not everyone wants to get involved in others personal business.
I personally would want to know 100%.

if your tires get slashed dont act surprised :1orglaugh

Set a trap, and let him find out for himself.

Means she gets caught and you are in the clear...

A girl I know found out that her best friends husband talked to one of his ex's on facebook and told her. End result was they stayed together, but she lost her friend :2 cents:

Facebook is horrible for all that stuff.

I guess the guy isn't too bright if he can't see the signs she's cheating on him.either that or he's cheating on her too and doesn't give a shit.there are tell tale signs your partner is fucking around on you

If you don't know them well enough to call them friends then you don't know them well enough to know the true dynamic of their relationship. Do you know for sure they don't have some sort of open nature to their relationship? That he doesn't know and has given approval? Do you know for sure he doesn't have any issues that has prevented him from performing and therefore he is allowing her to get that itch scratched elsewhere as long as she comes home to him?

Of course none of that may be the case and she could just be cheating on him outright but unless you call them friends, stay out of it.

I agree with PompousJohn. If there's some way for him to find out "accidentally" then make it happen. It sucks to see someone you like unknowingly getting chumped like that -- and it'll feel good to see that whore exposed.

Yes I know 100% she has had sex with many guy's I didn't like her from the 1st time I met her 5 years ago.

:1orglaugh:1orglaugh

Mind your own business.

Nobody wants to break his heart? How about when that whore brings home an std. Fuck that bitch.. tell the dude. I hate liars.

That wasn't really what I said. I said that you may not know the dynamic of their relationship. She may be a liar and a cheat but on the other hand, he could already know about it and they have an agreement.

If your sister is the one that is his real friend then if an approach to him is made, it should be from her.

It is really hard to find a way to cheat on me (but it has been done) but I would like to know. However, I would rather be told by a friend than somebody I didn't know as well. I would be more humiliated than anything if it was being presented to me as common street knowledge.

For with much wisdom is much sorrow; as knowledge increases, grief increases.

It's time for a bukkake!

if i recall, the season 2 jersey shore had a similar problem. ronnie was making out at the clubs, then coming home & sleeping with sammy. snooki & jwoww want to tell sammie, but dont want to hurt their friendships with ronnie. so they wrote up a secret note. But the note backfired, because sammie got pissed because nobody would tell her who wrote the note, somehow that led to sammie & JWow getting into a big fight. ironic since jwow was trying to help by being a snitch. goes to show that interfering with relationships has unexpected consequences.

They live in NJ I'm in NC so I can't see someone driving 456 miles just to slash my tires. The situation has been resolved my sisters boyfriend told and now it's out. She has been tossed out of his house and the guy is crushed but was happy that he was told.

Just because I didn't see her blowing a guy doesn't mean I don't know she was cheating.


:2 cents:

I was in a similar position once. One of my best friends back in the 80's joined the army for 5 years to get his mechanics papers. While he was gone I saw his fiancee, a nurse at the hospital I worked at, get out of a car after sucking face with a scumbag guy I recognized. These were not "thanks for the fun date" kinds of kisses, they were more like "thanks for wild fuck can't wait til we do it again" kind. She saw me as she walked from the car and knew that I'd seen her. Eyewitness thing, nailed dead to rights.

I mulled over and belabored the dilema of whether or not to tell on her for a long time before deciding to just keep my nose out of it and let their situation work itself out. I wanted to rat her out but didn't want to lose my friend, which she assured me would happen. Sure enough they eventually broke up after he found out on his own.

The thing of it is, once he confronted her she assumed it was me who had told, which of course let him know that I knew and didn't say anything. He was suitably pissed. But as luck would have it I didn't lose my friend over it, because he forgave me after hearing my reasoning (and my apology).... but it was close. I honestly don't know what hurt him more, the fact that chick he was crazy in love with betrayed him or that his best friend knew and didn't tell him.

My point is, there IS no "right way" to handle this kind of thing. You tell and you risk much. "Mind your own business" as some suggest and you can still end up on the shit end of the stick.

Honestly if I had to do it all over again, same set of circumstances, I would tell my friend the truth and let the shit fall where it may.