my g/f just found out I shoot adult films... ouch
 

I am on my third adult film now. About to put up the website (still looks like crap).

Anyways, my g/f asked me about what all the video shoots are for that I have been doing and I told her "i'm professionally producing and directing adult films"

Yea... she flipped a shit on me. Never been called so many bad things in my life. Disgusting, hurtful, creepy, sick, nasty, stupid, dumb, idiot... the list goes on and on. :warning
However, she didn't break up with me...

Now she's at work for the next couple hours. Anyone have experience with this? Maybe something I can say to calm her down? I already clearly explained it's strictly professional. I am not having sex with anyone, just directing my models... I thought she would understand, but she thinks sex is something shared between two people in love. oyyy

Looks like i'm on the verge of being single boys :upsidedow

Looking back, I probably should have told her upfront. But she would have flipped out on me then for asking and I would never of had the chance to shoot my own adult films. The best thrill ever! :pimp

sounds like it's a trust issue rather than what you are doing

You gotta tell them upfront. Oh well better luck next time

Tell her that because of disgusting lowlifes like you, she's able to walk alone through the city at night without getting molested or raped (statistically proven that increased access to internet and porn reduces rape) and "if this bullshit city knew what you do for it they'd erect a fucking statue in your honor."

Would you trust someone who hides shit from you?

Hopefully the OP can spin this around.

i dont blame her. youre sick

Yea... we've been together for over a year. I've been the best b/f. But I think it's the fact that i didn't tell her.

bad bad move on my part. Lessons learned

Only thing is... she wants me to stop filming adult films. But it's my passion! I love it, i'm in a pickle

This is an interesting subject. Females can be very unrationally disturbed. What i would like to know if there are any producers here (with their actual feet on the productionfloor) that find difficulties finding a serious relationship because of their work. So not porn actors actually sticking their dicks in all kinds of places but just producers producing and directing scenes without having sexual contact with the models.

You really should have told her, unless you're not that bothered if she leaves?

Why do you need a gf when you can become a stunt cock?

show her your impressive bank account thanks to adult...

;)

haha I wish... too bad it's not about the money!

Even thou.. it's all about the money

Soon you'll be single and broke

give her a contract in your next film

:thumbsup

No advise from me. She will call you names forever. But likely wont break up with you for it.

The trick is to indescretely leave editing footage up on your computer. Make sure she then uses computer.

Later that night during some coctails (or in a few days) she will bring it up and call you names again. Then you bang her and the cycle continues.

There are only 2 options here that can save your relationship.

Option 1. Offer her a part in your next shoot.

Option 2. Give up porn and go work for her dad.


Of course there's a 3rd option but it's a lot riskier -- Just keep on doing what you're doing and see if she comes around.

she will dump you,so its time to post her nudes ITT

Tell her you didn't say anything before because you were waiting for the project to bring in some big dollars so you could prove it was worth it. Talk about how the money would elevate both your lifestyles and you want more for the both of you. You haven't changed nor will you ever and will always love her the same. This is simply about making big money in a fun way. Tell her she can come to a shoot if she wants and see for herself it's just business.

Just be careful not to turn her into golddigger by spending too much of your "new porn wealth" on her...

Good luck. Been there before and some women just don't like it. Whether it's personal insecurities, the fear of what others (family, friends) may think of her if it gets out etc.

For the record I could never stay with a women that name called me. I would feel too disrespected and have zero desire to regain her respect. Either you love me and treat me correct or don't let the door hit you on the ass.

:2 cents::2 cents:

You think? and you think?

I'd say at the top of Being The Best Boyfriend list, would be being honest.

I had something like that...

I wasn't shooting adult films... just add some free websites...
it was a mess, 'cause she was far way from me and I had to explain via phone...

You only have to be honest... i was... i'm in porn just 'cause of the money...

thats it!
hope you get ur problem solved.

All I can say is that if she has a problem with it now (and she obviously does) she will always have a problem with it. There is no argument/discussion/explanation that will make her come around, ever.

girls are like buses....so....

Look on the bright side! At least she didn't ask you to film her in an all black gangbang

haha nice. This made my day lol.

A nice Coach purse will shut her up.

you sick sick pornographers!!

:thumbsup

Time to kick that one to the curb.

She may not like what you're doing...that doesn't give her the right to disrespect you so vehemently like that.

Trust me...curb time.

You can thank me later.

Better to be hated for what you are, than loved for what you are not.

Should have turned on the camera and said "Lets fuck!"

wow what an idiot. i am going to get with a girl who seems to doesn't even like men even viewing pornography when this industry would be enormous commonground then when she finds out log on gfy and create a thread about it as if you are so surprised. i bet women are like your playthings to you when they don't give you what you want. when was the second to last time you broke up was it three weeks ago?

Op left out details that he's shooting gay porn!

These type of threads are always GOLD!

The obvious answer is to have me shoot it for you.... >;-))
That way I'm the perv and not you. My wife already knows I shoot porn.

See sig....... Top porn producer in South Florida. ZMASTER is the oldest porn content company on the Internet. Since 1995.


Peace

You don't need with a girl who bosses you around and you definitely shouldn't be asking her "permission." That's your starting point. Anything less and you're fooling yourself. Staying in that relationship is just going to make you both miserable and waste a lot of time. Neither of you deserve that so man up and end it. There is no compromise with that kind of girl. Then when you start dating again, put it all out on the table on the first date.

Hiding/lying to your gf is not the worse thing you've done here. Wasting time on an incompatible relationship is.

This is the truest advice you will ever receive.

is your girlfriend really your boyfriend?

Take her to a set with you so she can see you're not doing anything with the models

Just answered your own question. If this is marriage material compromise is okay like she takes it up the pooper and you switch gigs. But if you'll be miserable by switching gigs than fuck that. You alter yourself once and it will happen again. Tell her you'll quit after she cooks for ya and has amazing sex with ya, soon as ya bust say get the fuck out. When she questions why say you don't like my gig so I'm just gonna start bangin all the models cause they don't give me shit. :2 cents:

had a really young girl flip shit on me today for turning down her advances

we're "over" for the 4th time in a month. apparently its "over" every weekend that I spend with a different girl. lol

you shouldnt have to defend yourself. girls hating on porn is so 90s. You tell her you are disappointed at her racism towards your art & that its over. If she really liked you she'll come around, & if not, it was over anyway.

tell her, you lied. if you want to save ur relationship.

Best advice so far, something I would say myself.

Tell her to read this thread.

Fuck the "it's so 90s". Is it so 90s hiding shit behind your gfs or wives back? Use your fuckin' head man!
Wouldn't have to defend yourself if ya told her straight up. A more viable excuse would be to tell her you didn't know her well enough to lay out your life story. I'm sure she's got some epic skeletons floatin' around herself.

agreed:thumbsup

Don't worry, she'll get used to it.