If she were MY daughter I'd (what would you do, Frankie?)
 

My daughter just got engaged to be married. Not a problem - as I like the guy well enough - but here's what bugs me. My mom (who is divorced from my dad) gave my daughter's fiancee her wedding ring. It was a family heirloom type deal. He gets the stone to put in a new setting, yet the diamond still stays in the family.

So, turns out my Mom's diamond is worth $13,000. Now my daughter is wearing a $15K ring on her finger. Everywhere. This terrifies me. I have told her a number of times that I would get a duplicate made and that she should keep the original somewhere safe.

She goes to Guelph/Humber College and she's wearing a $15K ring (new setting) to class. Everyday. Yaaarrrgh!

In your esteemed opinion, what can I tell this smitten girl to convince her to wear a piece of glass or zircon in its stead? And why do I fell in my bones that she's either going to lose it, or get hurt defending it?

get a gun!

May I suggest a big one? :helpme

scary to handle kind of ring

Did it bother you your mom was wearing a 15k ring all the time?

Enroll her in aikido class? Seriously, you need to talk to her about safety considerations.

I always get a kick out chicks i see on campus with an engagement or wedding ring and I think to myself, I wonder how long its gonna last, lol....

Honestly? Let her enjoy it. get a seperate insurance rider for jewelery for the amount of the ring (migHt cost you $100/year) and let her do her thing. She's probably more responsible than you think, and so far the heirloom has made it this far. It's meaningless if it's not worn and enjoyed.

Get her a policy for double the value and let her wear it..

The one I wear is not worth about 7k and my wifes is about 12. We dont even think about it.

It's called insurance. And if she's in a school/neighborhood where you think someone would kill her for a ring, then I'd worry more about changing her geographical location than her jewelry.

make the switch yourself and dont say a word to her :2 cents:

my sister has a huge rock on her finger now and it makes me nervous. she loses jewelry left and right and i know i'll be the one getting the first sobbing phone call.

there's really nothing to do, though. why have a ring that you don't wear? it's stupid.

Insure the thing. Tell her if anyone wants it and applies duress just give it to them. Be sensible about it.

It's a piece of metal with a prescribed value. Do just as you would with your car, insure it, look after it as best you can but if someone puts a gun in your face demanding it - give it to them. Insurance will replace it and despite the sentimental value of a heirloom - if the only way to keep it safe is to lock it in a safe then whats the point ?

you're a cute redhead

My ex's ring was a cool 20K - she pawned it for a few thousand after I kicked her ass out. Fuck it - it's only money, at least she left my balls intact.

I'd start by telling her and her finance not to go around telling people she has a $15k ring on her finger.

Also- if it's a safety concern, how exactly do you think a mugger/criminal is going to be able to distinguish between the 15k diamond and the $200 piece of glass? Most thieves don't carry a loupe around with them.

Got nothing to do with how responsible she is, but wearing a $15K ring to college gives you an indication, it's about how honest are the people around her.

Worse case scenario is get her insured against assault, mugging and (yes because it has to said) life insurance. Shit happens.

Best idea on the thread. :thumbsup

Exactly. I bet most people will think its a really nice fake.

cover that baby in chocolate syrup

Perfect advice. If she can't take care of a ring then maybe the whole college marriage, normal human being thing is out too.

Edit: besides the "value" is probably a lot less.

Check this out
Smother my daughter in chocolate syrup
And strap her on again, oh baby
Smother that girl in chocolate syrup
And strap her on again
She’s my teen-age baby
She turns me on
I’d like to make her do a nasty
On the white house lawn
Smother my daughter in chocolate syrup
And boogie ’til the cows come home

i pay like $350 a year to insure my wife's ring that is worth more than double that. she works in downtown miami and has never had a problem, and that place is a serious shithole. i would tell her to turn it around and put the rock where it cant be seen whenever she is walking alone in a not-so-nice part of town, which should not be a lot if shes smart.

my ex wife lost her's @ university ... thank g-d for insurance

Just insure it, my fiancee is walking around with a ring sporting close to a 2ct stone, it's insured and we have piece of mind!

keep the ring on the low, noone needs to know the value, its non of there business. a gun and a mask, and that ring is gone.

My rings cost far less than that (because I really don't care about jewelry) and we have them insured. I am really happy about that because as my weight goes down my rings are getting really loose but I don't want to get them sized down until I am at goal. Can't tell you the number of times one of them has slipped off in my pocket. Rings can be pretty easy to lose.

well don't do what Frankie (FZ) did, but ........ buy a copy from glass and try to swap it, if that is possible.

Agreed! :thumbsup

Dont tell the world where she goes to college and how much her ring is worth.. oops.. lol just kidding :) The insurance route seems like the option, although it'd be NICE if she would go open a safe deposit box and wear a duplicate.. cant force it.

Not sure this was the brightest information to divulge around these parts :2 cents:

I'd fuck her

:1orglaugh:1orglaugh:1orglaugh

LOL get Insurance and let her enjoy wearing a real diamond you live once and why wear fake shit My wife wears a 40k ring on her finger everyday true story ....time for yall to catch up lol

What good is a ring if it sits in a safety deposit box? And who in the hell would want to wear a piece of glass when you have a diamond ring? Humber is not the ghetto, and franky, I doubt too many people pay much attention to what is on her finger or even begin to know the value of it, after all, you didn't.

Besides, I don't mean to sound nasty, but 15K is not a huge amount for an engagement ring. I am sure there are a few teachers and/or students with jewelery just as valuable, if not more. If she is old enough to get married, then she is old enough to take care of her ring and make her own decision on what to do.

Ok lets rephrase:

If it's of significant value to you in some way, do something. Else do nothing.

yeah just insure it.

Some people would mug you for a $150 ring, but she's wearing a $15,000 ring to college. Do you think she's keeping quiet about it?

OK I'm looking worse case scenario, but then you can guard against it.

Get an insiurance policy for the ring and let her enjoy her ring

No shit eh? All these idiots saying get a gun etc etc... My friend bought his fiancee a ring at $2000 and another friend paid $12000 for his fiancee's ring. Couldnt tell the difference between the two in price. Only the people who need to know should know the price of it. That saves idiots trying to rob her for it.

hell yeah

yeah, especially if someone grabs her wrist to get the ring, then she could pitch them across the room

How does she respond to this?

Honestly, I think you're fretting too much over it, but if you want to do anything, I agree with the people saying to take self-defense classes. Still - she getting married = you need to stop being so overprotective of her.

Take the ring and tell her you're getting it appraised or something.

Switch it out with a CZ.

Put the real diamond somewhere safe. Then you're all good.

Just do a copy and give it to her and let her decide. The reason is not only for the value but also wearing it every day might get a few hits here and there. I think at college she might be less careful

exactly right

insurance for the ring

and life insurance for her

then tell her

Another idea could be to get her a long chain and ask her to wear it on the chain while at school. That way she still has the ring on her person but its not as visible