gf gone for almost a year. What would u do?
 

when we first hooked up i thought (and she did too) it would be a fling type of thing but it grew really fast.. alot of chicks here go a year or so to australia to travel around there, and so was she. she already planned her trip long before she met me so now shes there with another chick since a few weeks and im still here... i have contact with her almost every day. But she is a hot chick, cute as hell and very spontaneous so im driving myself crazy here whenever she tells me shes going out etc. Ill probably be visiting her for a few months but not until februari or so.. but i dont know if i can stand being here til then when she is out there partying and going places. Alot can happen in that time and im already going crazy here i dont want to feel this fucked up all the time for the coming months. Anyone have experience with a fucked up situation like this?

she sounds young...chances are she'll come back thinking she has 'changed' and has grown out of you and now needs someone more experienced and mature (or some useless bullshit she just wants to spout to justify cheating on you repeatedly).

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Pretty much covers it.

she will find someone, dont believe in love :Oh crap

Yeah, don't focus that much on ONE Girl, that makes you uneasy and therefore unattractive.

She'll come back and want to be "friends" ....

Move on and find someone that is able to enjoy a full year with you ..not away from you.

i really dont know. :disgust

your fucked man

A year in australia partying? That's one hell of a vacation!

I knew this chick who did the year in australia thing. She had a bf when she left and fucked 4 guys in the first 2 months, then he went to join her there. They are still together...

She's banging other guys already. Next!

Go for whatever that is you want... Women don't have any contemplations (maybe some guilt afterwards) when it comes down to doing what they want.

Who cares if she gets some other cock. Just be thankful to have some good times when it's your turn with her. Jealous freaks!

damn. Did the guy know this before he went? does he know now? Or doesnt he know it still?

I just had a convo with her saying its so different there and that its hard, that the guys there only want to fuck the chicks (naive remark since its like that everywhere in the world). But I know backpacking through australia for guys is really pussy hunting, i heard it from a couple of guys i know who went there. One said it was an all you can fuck fest of chicks who come to backpack there from all over the world.
I said to her when she fucks another guy i dont wanna hear anything from her again. Just yet she said hat 'its so different here' but she doesnt wanna jeopardize what we have, that she loves me and that she says she has a bf to all those motherfuckers hitting on her, but that it is hard. For now i believe her that she didnt fuck anyone yet but as much as she loves me i dont have high hopes if she already talks like this after not even a month. It's not THAT hard to not have sex for a while i know from experience! what a bunch of bullshit!

I don't want to be the bearer of bad news, but chicks backpacking in Australia are pretty much open game. If you ever want to get laid anywhere (as an Australian), you go to the backpacking bars.

Advice: let her do her thing. 1 year is a long time. If you were in her situation, you'd want the freedom to live in the situation and moment - whether that be get hit on by drunken dudes in a bar, or exploring real relationships with someone there.

Just let her do her thing, move on yourself, and see what happens in a years time. Honestly.

that was the original idea but it quickly became pretty serious so we said we will keep contact and that ill prolly gonna visit her.... and i dont know if i can do that by now, no contact... this chick gives me a feeling no other chick has ever done and when we break contact i just know that ill be really really miserable. this sucks.

Reality is: she's going to be there for the next year.
So, you either go over there to be with her, and hope like fuck you don't cramp her style, cos it would really suck to be dumped in a foreign country (well.. maybe not so bad, see the note about backpackers..)
Or, you let her do her thing over there. Don't be the dude that tries to clamp her life down of what she can or can't do.. cos the 3 continents between you two will probably mean she'll do what she wants anyhow.

BTW, I'm not a total chump at this: I tried long-distance between France and AU (both ways). Both times it went tits up, lol.

hit it and dont think much more about it

she really wants me to come over shes crazy about me so me being dumped if i visit her i dont see that happen. Im not sure what ill do im gonna let it sink in, have to think about it.
I appreciate the input of someone with experience on this subject :thumbsup

good, solid, fucking advice :thumbsup

dont call her or take her calls for at least 1 week, see what happens...

You kids and your jealous feelings for one another... it's just a pussy... don't get too worried about who's fucking it. Go find one and have some fun :)

Nomatter how much you think she is in love with you...she will cheat.
She is going over there for adventure and to gain experience in life. She is not checking into a monistry.
If it is really ment the two of you will be together again in a couple of years. Consider it over for now. Sorry dude.

I don't think you can consider her your "gf" any more. Find a new girl.

He still doesn't know as far as Im aware...
Honestly, I think fuck it dude. You want to stress out wondering if she is fucking someone for the next year? Think about it. Nowadays you are lucky to live to 80. Let's say you are around 25 right now (I don't know your age, just guessing). Your dick will stop working at say 60, and you'll be unattractive and gross at around 45?

You've got maybe 20 years left. You are gonna waste 5% of that wondering if shes cheating on you, just so she can come back and dump you anyways? Just break up now and get it over with. It will be much easier to get over her if shes on the other side of the planet and you don't have to see or speak to her.

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OK I'll give you a female perspective. I did the long distance thing for 2 months, we both stayed faithful and remained together. It was in no way "hard" for me to do it, because I wanted to. If I had been saying things like "It's so hard to be hit on by other guys" on the phone, that would have been a good clue that I was not really into staying together.

Gftw ....

Sure, but were you a teenager, on a holiday with friends, drinking, going out, partying etc.

Two months is a hell of a big difference than 12 - and that plays on the mind.

Drinking and Partying for a year - consuming massive amounts of alcohol...

good luck...

Sounds like a hot chick. I have no experience with situations such as when gf is gone for almost a year. Good luck, nico-t.

This is exactly why I tell you kids "no monogamous relationships until you are 25."

You are not mature enough for it and you are not being fair to her. She needs to go fuck other guys just like you need to fuck other chicks.

Get smart.

She's in AUSTRALIA and you're wondering if she's thinking about you, waiting for you, etc? DUDE - have you SEEN Australian men?

She probably hasn't even hit the Gold Coast yet. :1orglaugh

go get laid man fuck that

I had the same situation before 15 years ago. Looking back on all the effort I put in the relationship when being apart: let her do her thing and if she's really serious with you she'll come back to you. It'll cost you probably too much energy and you will be double hurt if she meets other people. And those chances are big of course.

I managed to keep up the relationship by then, but when she came back we broke up.

right now ive got a conversation with her, one of those internet convos where someone is getting disconnected every fucking minute. Is australia a third world country or something? Jesus fucking christ

She's fucking with you. Old story: "The Internet is bad way out here! What?? Be right there Russell! Sorry honey, we're breaking up...no, not 'breaking up', well, yes 'breaking up' but not over the Interne - honey? We're breaking up...."

Old story. Girls are passive-aggressive by nature because they're weaker than us and shit.

Dude let it go that ass is getting tap by Aussie studs and she is probably kissing girls too.

Real Talk:

Women can sense anxiety in a man like a dog can sense fear.

Once they detect it, you're fucked.

Just the fact that you don't know what to do in this situation means that you will fuck it up.

If you are worried that she will fuck someone else, she will.

If you don't have enough faith in yourself that you did what it takes to convince her to be faithful, she will cheat.

This isn't a matter of being snide or making fun of your dilemma. You have to be aware of your deficiencies. You appear to have a few.

Let it go and back away from the situation. I hate to use a commonly used line from a PUA's handbook, but remember: Don't chase. Attract.

haha problem solved :1orglaugh

I am sorry to be the bearer of bad news but I was just off backpacking in Australia and met this beautiful woman who I had sex with repeatedly.. you know like tore it the fuck up, hit that shit raw dog and bailed.. I remember her asking me this exact same secneario that you describe... she said her bf did something with websites or played with himself on his puter 24/7 she could never figure out which it was... So I will just save you the trouble of getting dumped when she gets back in a year or more and just thought I'd give you the news now.. she's takin dick like donny longs boat taking water

Do they all look like Crocodile Dundee?

If you tell her you don't want to hear from her again if she fucks someone.. you'll never find out when she fucks someone.. and if you're all worried about it, she'll do it.. nature is a whore and she'll fuck ya every time, son

cut her loose....

If it was that serious then she wouldn't have gone. :2 cents: Listen to Quantum-X dont wait around. Do your own thing then see where you two are in a year. Either way you will have to do your own thing eventually it all just depends how many months you want to make yourself stress out.

Ur in a lose-lose situation. Suck it up and let her go for a year.

I think thats the smartest thing I ever heard Baddog say :thumbsup

:2 cents: sound advice

You were all right on the money. Out with the old, in with the new!