It's a choice both of us have to make. She was mature and brave by communicating her fantasy. If I simply so No and thats that, that only closes communication and will distance us. That will lead to a deterioration of the relationship.

How do I respect her openness with me while keeping the honesty flowing while still being a strong leader?

That is a reasonable short-term solution. Not sure if that is a long term solution for her fantasy will linger in her mind.

I like your style.:thumbsup

Right on the money, very well said.

Actually it's pretty stupid and inaccurate but whatever.

I've been on both sides of it in the same relationship.

My ex wanted to fuck other girls, so did I.

The first time we had rules, boundaries that wouldn't be crossed. I could get my dick sucked as much as I wanted but could only fuck her and couldn't stick my tongue anywhere except nipple. In exchange, I had to be able to participate in all of her lesbian experiences. I was like 22 so I was cool with it.

Then the rules kept disappearing, she started fucking girls on her own and when we were together I'd end up fucking girls too, which was her idea at first (kind of) and then she'd get mad that the other girls were able to get me off. Like it's my fault that fucking some random stripper doggy style while she's going down on my girlfriend who is telling me to fuck her like I hate her is a turn on.

She wanted to stop having threesomes, I wanted her to stop fucking other girls because in some flawed logic, it was only okay if I was there.

So then she threw a curveball, cheated on me with a customer, I fucked her best friend in retaliation and then she threw my Prada phone in a toilet and I haven't talked to her since.

There are so many words of wisdom in this thread, but this is probably the best advice yet. You can't turn a ho into a housewife, so you might as well have some fun and make some $ at the same time.

Donovan Phillips 2.0

thats fucked up, i wouldnt let it happen

Reading most of the replies, nobody seems to have a stable relationship besides you. Take into consideration that this is a smut peddler board and not a life coaching board.:2 cents:

Talk to your girlfriend about it and if you feel uncomfortable with the situation, just tell her how you feel and take a common decision, find a common basis.

http://www.reddit.com/r/self/comment...cock_how_do_i/

posting on reddit are we?

I did not post that there but thanks for letting me know about it.

I will pay 500 to be the guy... she wont notice the cam

lol call me stupid or whatever names, ive been around enough to know that his girl will cheat on him,

WTF, she is young, she WANTS to fuck other guys, let her go.. she will end up fucking other guys one way or another

and no im not stupid.. i lived in panama for a while, went to the clubs there, and always tons of young american girls traveling with their gfs, and then are so awed by the spanish guys and their suave shit, then the guys invite them to the beach and to show them around and end up fucking the girls..

its always the girls with less experience that cheat.. all i know is if ur girl has been with only u and some other guy, and shes telling u she wants to fuck/suck another guy, it'll be fucking easy to get her to cheat

carry on

and i never try hard, ever.. i meet a girl.. i make her laugh.. i act like i dont even acknowledge i want her.. and it works..

im too busy chasing $$ i dont give a shit about girls, and the more u dont give a shit the easier it is to get them.. and im telling u the girls ive ever had cheat on their bfs with me were girls who have been with only 1 guy or 2 guys or married their first love, etc.

It comes down to how jealous type you are.
I see three options: A) Leave her. I would because I wouldn't want a serious relationship with a naughty, likely to cheat girl but that's just me.
B) The 2 of you become swingers
C) Deny her request, be tough about it and live in ignorance, she may cheat on you but for as long as you don't notice it, it's all good. Tell her some story about you being cheated on and how terrible it felt and that you would never want to hear your girlfriend say she did that.. (Just so she wouldn't tell about cheating on you when she is feeling quilty)

of fucking course

Ask AssofClass for advice on this ....

wait wait here a moment
you can do the same, fuck a girl while she is watching
if she has issues with this idea, you can tell her there is no room for one way relationships in your life.

Before you break up, try this at least!

Gloryhole + your cock = win!

cut your emotional ties with this girl, then go explore all your sexual fantasies with her such as threesomes, bondage, whatever and dump her so you can fall in love with a good girl without any regrets

cuckold....

I don't really see the problem here. She wants to suck a different cock. You should be able to negotiate the situation to get some different pussy, and keep your girl.

I think it's great that you have a good enough relationship that she can speak freely to you about these things.

I know some swingers with very good, very solid marriages. Better marriages than most "straight" couples that I know.

Then again, maybe this kind of deal isn't one you are comfortable with. If so, you probably owe it to both yourself and her to let her have her freedom for now.

one big difference though, the girl is honestly telling the guy what she wants instead of just going out and cheating (we'll assume she hasn't done something like that yet). people have different fantasies and i don't see that as so much wanting to be with someone else as wanting to experience different things. lets face it, fucking the same person for 10 years, it gets kind of routine.

lolz, i guess the guy is just fucking around..

No way, are you going to listen to the negative or the postive... its up to you! Every relationship is different & every couple chooses to respect & commit to each other in different ways.

Noway, unless you have been in this situation you are just sayig what you assume... Assumption is always wrong!

It stops when either says it does. No one need go behind any ones back... grow up & enjoy living out fantasies.

Every relationship is different as is most peoples trusts, honor, love, respect & commitment.

Hey, this is actually a great idea... I reckon this guy should make a gloryhole & film the action... we have one & use it most weeks for parties & camshows.

Ours is more for business than fantasy, but it all begins somewhere :2 cents:

I wouldnt have said Jon got this right but can or could be on the right lines if either partner is not commited to the relationship in the same level.

A fantasy is great to enjoy, for real, again, only if the relationship is stable. Real life adventures dont always have the same buzz as the fantasy was.

Its down to the individual couple, the confidence & closeness between them to enjoy fantasies & allow the each other to enjoy that little bit more!

If both partners trust each other, feel equal to one another & love each other with commitment & dedicated respect, then there's no harm to the relationship. You're taking the step to entertaining the mind in a real life situation. If fun as sex should be!

The only harm comes, is when the woman or man become, immature, jealous or envious over on another. It doesnt take a fantasy to make these feelings occur!

Im here :thumbsup

What comes around goes around. In an equal relationship, if you can do it, so can they... which in opposite, ask yourself, would you like to have the similar fun & can you be trusted to enjoy this. If you can, then they can.....

I say go for it, but only if you are confident of yourself & your relationship :2 cents:

there's 3 things no one else touches - my car, my laptop, my girlfriend. in that order.

let her fuck a fellow gfyer and then share your review :P

http://www.gofuckyourself.com/showpo...2&postcount=47


Not everyone is wired to be a swinger. Some try and it works great and they can do it, others try it and it ruins the relationship. If you have doubts it's best to just not try.

I am way too jealous of a person to let someone I'm dating fuck someone else whether male of female. I know that now, but I had to try first. And I have ONLY dated strippers since I was 21. I don't mind what they do at work, I wouldn't mind dating a girl that does solo webcam, solo porn or is a stripper, but if they're getting another cock in them for work or in their personal life, that's just something I can't live with.

My hat is off to those who can, but personally it's just not something I can live with.

So yes, I have been in a similar situation - I was even a willing participant in it but things go wrong.

That would make the cheating much more degrading for the guy :1orglaugh...

Now we know what 'fuzzylogic' means :uhoh ... :disgust

This thread is useless without pictures.

weird i came across this thread. last night went out to the club, had a few drinks, ran into this chick, hit it off, next thing you know i was in her car and she was sucking me off ... weird thing is during the bj i looked over at the car beside us and there was this dude staring at us with a weird look on his face, his lip twitching ... it was too weird i didn't even finish.

Ask her what you get in return.

If she gets pissed or jealous then kick her to the curb.

Donny???

add my desktops and my phone to that list :)

I used to love banging hot older wives in this situation.

All the guys were closet homos if you ask me and they all had little dicks.

And yeah...do a search on Donny and see how that turned out. :1orglaugh

yes... break up with her now.. u have the upper hand..
bcos she will eventually do it.. its ur call.
when u break it up, she will want to come back.. dont get back with her.
just move on & find someone else.
take this advice and u wont have regrets.

Perhaps you have not noticed the high divorce rate in this country.

1. There are exceptions to every rule.
2. Talk to me in another 10.

I take it you upgraded from the car you used to have in your avatar. :upsidedow