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TheSquealer · 08-17-2013, 08:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Elli

And I didn't mean he needs to wait to find someone special. I meant just try to have a few repeat dates with one woman. Just a few. Enough to know each other's last names, maybe. That could alleviate some anxiety.

His anxiety is likely to be the product of substance abuse as a first point. He's already hinted at that many times. And he's unlikely to stop as he's also hinted at alcohol as a coping mechanism for his problem, vs really wanting to fix the "problem".

Further, being with someone you love or care about doesn't stop you from worrying about the boys in the lab at CERN playing with anti-matter while a girl is blowing you. His problem is what he believes to be an inability to get control of his thoughts, how he chooses to deal with it (binge drinking) and the fact that he's not genuinely interested in help, change or personal betterment.

The Porn Nerd · 08-17-2013, 08:11 AM

The OP is having panic attacks because he's a dirty little boy who feels guilty about all the dirty little things he's done to girls over the years. Maybe he even wants to do these dirty little things to men instead of women so.......

Find jesus you dirty little boy!!

AllAboutCams · 08-17-2013, 08:12 AM

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Originally Posted by MisterPeabody

The OP is having panic attacks because he's a dirty little boy who feels guilty about all the dirty little things he's done to girls over the years. Maybe he even wants to do these dirty little things to men instead of women so.......

Find jesus you dirty little boy!!

SmutGiant · 08-17-2013, 01:52 PM

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Originally Posted by TheSquealer

His anxiety is likely to be the product of substance abuse as a first point.

I smoke a bit of weed and generally drink about once a week.

My anxiety generally stems from spending too much time thinking about and working towards the future, instead of living in the now and focusing on the moment. That's really all it comes down to.

I'm at the point where I spend so much time alone working, thinking etc that even when I'm around people its like I'm not even really there.

SmutGiant · 08-17-2013, 02:07 PM

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Originally Posted by MisterPeabody

The OP is having panic attacks because he's a dirty little boy who feels guilty about all the dirty little things he's done to girls over the years.

Well, you're kind of on to something there. It's not necessarily that I feel guilty for doing those things, it's more like irrational thoughts & warrant-less jealousy that I've spent my life slaving away to be able to pay for sex when I want it and all the girl would have to do is present the opportunity to pretty much any male. It's a fucked way of thinking that I can't seem to control.

jigg · 08-17-2013, 02:22 PM

Find a good therapist that won't shove pills at you immediately. A good behavioral therapist can help you figure out the over thinking issue and suggest ways to cope if you have OCD tendencies. Pot could exacerbate your problem, it does in some people. Alcohol, and caffeine if you take that, are not good to take if you have anxiety

Definitely avoid shit like Xanax and the like, once you start you can pretty much forget stopping those babies.

Go to Walgreens, pick up a bottle of B-complex vitamins that has 200-500mg niacinamide in it. Or just a bottle of 200-500mg niacinamide. Take it at least once a day with food so it won't make you sick, see what it does for you. Niacinamide stimulates GABA receptors without binding like Xanax and the other benzo drugs do, so it has effects similar to benzo drugs

brassmonkey · 08-17-2013, 02:30 PM

could mean you dont like pussy

mikesinner · 08-17-2013, 02:48 PM

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Originally Posted by TheSquealer

Its people like me that built the world. That dreamed. That conquered. That did the impossible. That first circumnavigated the globe. That built the worlds largest ships, the worlds largest sky scrapers and put men on the moon. Women did not do those things and neither did people like you.

Its gender confused people like you that sat at home, brushing your 10 cats saying people like me need to slow down and think about the feelings of others.

It's actually people like you that cause gender confusion except in cases of genetic disposition.

Strike_ads · 08-17-2013, 03:22 PM

Dude sounds to me like you're drinking too much COFFEE!

Am I correct?

Rochard · 08-17-2013, 03:25 PM

performance anxiety? LOL.

You are about to get laid. Why would you have performance anxiety? Your gonna have fun no matter how poorly you do.

SmutGiant · 08-17-2013, 03:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Strike_ads

Dude sounds to me like you're drinking too much COFFEE!

Am I correct?

lol, I do drink upwards two pots a day

SmutGiant · 08-17-2013, 03:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Rochard

performance anxiety? LOL.

You are about to get laid. Why would you have performance anxiety? Your gonna have fun no matter how poorly you do.

I'm complicated. For almost the past decade I've pretty much only been with working girls. When it comes to trying to establish "real-life" relations I feel inexperienced and threatened.

It's like I'm trying to compete in a game I haven't practised for.

Captain Kawaii · 08-17-2013, 04:07 PM

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Originally Posted by SmutGiant

I'm complicated. For almost the past decade I've pretty much only been with working girls. When it comes to trying to establish "real-life" relations I feel inexperienced and threatened.

It's like I'm trying to compete in a game I haven't practised for.

Sorry, I thought you were trolling. Get into exercise. Go out to parks and fields and walk, climb, workout. I work out 50 minutes a day minimum, outdoors. I feel 20 years younger.

Ween yourself off drinking and smoking. Its bad for your body if all you do is that and stay inside working. At some point your body will say enough is enough.

Forget the future. Push yourself to stay in the moment. The future will take care of itself if you take care of the present moment. Trust me. Its biological.

I was a smoker and drinker since 17. Just hit mid century mark. You can't live while hallucinating. You will always be disconnected from real world.

My health is dramatically improving, anxiety is easing and things are just better. The sex will be fun again if you try. Just don't give up on yourself.

SmutGiant · 08-17-2013, 04:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Captain Kawaii

Sorry, I thought you were trolling. Get into exercise. Go out to parks and fields and walk, climb, workout. I work out 50 minutes a day minimum, outdoors. I feel 20 years younger.

Ween yourself off drinking and smoking. Its bad for your body if all you do is that and stay inside working. At some point your body will say enough is enough.

Forget the future. Push yourself to stay in the moment. The future will take care of itself if you take care of the present moment. Trust me. Its biological.

I was a smoker and drinker since 17. Just hit mid century mark. You can't live while hallucinating. You will always be disconnected from real world.

My health is dramatically improving, anxiety is easing and things are just better. The sex will be fun again if you try. Just don't give up on yourself.

Thanks man

BAKO · 08-17-2013, 04:25 PM

Take some Advil lol

Strike_ads · 08-17-2013, 04:43 PM

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Originally Posted by SmutGiant

lol, I do drink upwards two pots a day

Stop drinking coffee its crap and it will KILL you.

You'll suffer for 3 days then it will be all GOOD

trust me!

The Porn Nerd · 08-17-2013, 04:47 PM

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Originally Posted by SmutGiant

Well, you're kind of on to something there. It's not necessarily that I feel guilty for doing those things, it's more like irrational thoughts & warrant-less jealousy that I've spent my life slaving away to be able to pay for sex when I want it and all the girl would have to do is present the opportunity to pretty much any male. It's a fucked way of thinking that I can't seem to control.

I, too, thought you were trolling so let me give you some real world advice on this, from my own personal experiences:

I started 5 years ago in adult with $0. That means I had to do Everything myself. I was working 7 days a week, 16 hours a day. I'd lierally wake up, eat, sit at the computer, smoke a ton of week to get me through the hours of what I called 'monkey work' and then went to bed. Got up, did it all over again. Sometimes I didn't know what day it was - is this Thursday? Tuesday? Who cares - work!!

Then my closest friends told me I was insane and they wouldn't hang out with me again until I got laid and went on vacation. LOL They were right! I was losing perspective and the ability to interact with other human beings.

So now I work (almost) as hard but I take breaks. I go OUT, leave my apartment, interact with actual humans. I now am in a relationship but back then, when I was like you seem to be now, I was completely incapable of acting 'normally' around a girl, let alone know how to have an actual relationship with one.

Time will heal this problem but you need to force yourself to take breaks. Try getting on a schedule where, come a certain time, you simply STOP ALL WORK and do ANYTHING ELSE. LOL It wil help, promise.

Hang in there, get some sleep, take care of yourself, and walk away from the computer every single day.

Good luck!!

TheSquealer · 08-17-2013, 05:42 PM

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Originally Posted by mikesinner

It's actually people like you that cause gender confusion except in cases of genetic disposition.

Interesting that you think gays can be taught to be straight.

xNetworx · 08-17-2013, 05:53 PM

OP, do you cry while you fap?

mikesinner · 08-17-2013, 05:56 PM

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Originally Posted by TheSquealer

Interesting that you think gays can be taught to be straight.

Not very good with reading comprehension are you?

TheSquealer · 08-17-2013, 06:32 PM

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Originally Posted by mikesinner

Not very good with reading comprehension are you?

Simple logic - if you believe I can make someone think they are gay.... then you believe it's possible to make them think they are not gay.

Or was it just you? Did I make you think you are gay?

Wait... put the cock down and collect your thoughts

iwantchixx · 08-17-2013, 09:05 PM

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Originally Posted by SmutGiant

It sure does sound like that eh?

But really though it's happened like a handful of times out of about 200 women. It's fucked man, I just get all these messed up thoughts and flashbacks and it fucks me all up.

Maybe you should make an appointment with your health professional? Anxiety is not something to mess with, especially if it happens during sex.

SmutGiant · 08-18-2013, 02:54 PM

I've come to a conclusion.

The roles were in reverse of what I'm used to. I felt like "just another boy toy" on her list kind of thing in a sense, which made me feel not in control of the situation.

It's hard to be the dominant alpha male when subconscious calculations make you perceive yourself to be in the weaker position.

Anyways, glad I got that all sorted out. Go local sports team!!!!

SmutGiant · 09-12-2013, 12:56 AM

It wasn't the sex that gave me a panic attack. It was the thought of me being a dumbass and not being able to get real and make a decision & letting her go find someone else. My heart races when the chick posts a damn pic on facebook.

Yes, yes I am an idiot. Good night mother fuckers.

SmutGiant · 09-12-2013, 12:59 AM

From this day forward I vow to be the better man, and put my best foot forward. I can no longer let my superficial ideals control my life. I let an amazing woman go for no reason other than irrational thinking.

If anyone has a time machine, that'd be greeeeat

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jigg Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2002 Posts: 2,527	Find a good therapist that won't shove pills at you immediately. A good behavioral therapist can help you figure out the over thinking issue and suggest ways to cope if you have OCD tendencies. Pot could exacerbate your problem, it does in some people. Alcohol, and caffeine if you take that, are not good to take if you have anxiety Definitely avoid shit like Xanax and the like, once you start you can pretty much forget stopping those babies. Go to Walgreens, pick up a bottle of B-complex vitamins that has 200-500mg niacinamide in it. Or just a bottle of 200-500mg niacinamide. Take it at least once a day with food so it won't make you sick, see what it does for you. Niacinamide stimulates GABA receptors without binding like Xanax and the other benzo drugs do, so it has effects similar to benzo drugs __________________ ...... eight,eight,two,eight,eight,four,two ......

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08-18-2013, 02:54 PM	#73
SmutGiant Confirmed User Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 4,894	I've come to a conclusion. The roles were in reverse of what I'm used to. I felt like "just another boy toy" on her list kind of thing in a sense, which made me feel not in control of the situation. It's hard to be the dominant alpha male when subconscious calculations make you perceive yourself to be in the weaker position. Anyways, glad I got that all sorted out. Go local sports team!!!!

09-12-2013, 12:56 AM	#74
SmutGiant Confirmed User Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 4,894	It wasn't the sex that gave me a panic attack. It was the thought of me being a dumbass and not being able to get real and make a decision & letting her go find someone else. My heart races when the chick posts a damn pic on facebook. Yes, yes I am an idiot. Good night mother fuckers.

09-12-2013, 12:59 AM	#75
SmutGiant Confirmed User Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 4,894	From this day forward I vow to be the better man, and put my best foot forward. I can no longer let my superficial ideals control my life. I let an amazing woman go for no reason other than irrational thinking. If anyone has a time machine, that'd be greeeeat