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VikingMan · 03-02-2010, 11:22 AM

Ok so I am shopping at my local slightly illegal hippie food market and my wallet falls out of my pocket. It contained all my credit cards, $300 cash, ID, etc. He finds me as I am about to walk out and hands it over to me.

This guy is like 50% black, has dread locks, and spends all day husking coconuts.

I thanked him 2 or 3 times and did not know what else to do so just left. Now I am wondering what if anything else I should do for him. Am I being an stereotyping asshole for wanting to give him a fat bud of chronic? (because he is part black/has dreads/gets paid under the table at a hippie market)

Or should I give him cash next time I see him? Or nothing?

cwd · 03-02-2010, 11:25 AM

Shouldn't a heartfelt thank you be enough? If you were returning someone else's would you expect more than that?

Juicy D. Links · 03-02-2010, 11:26 AM

give him a blowjob in the break room

candyflip · 03-02-2010, 11:27 AM

While I'd love a big fat bud of chronic for returning a lost wallet, I wouldn't want someone to assume that I'd want that big fat bud of chronic.

I'd give him some cash and let him decide what he wants to do with it. Maybe paying his phone bill is higher on his list than getting high.

kristin · 03-02-2010, 11:27 AM

I think that you feel more compelled to do something since most people these days are douchebags. In 2010, most people don't think they would get their wallet returned to them, whereas 15 years ago it would have been expected.

I have found that saying "please," "thank you," "have a nice day," go really far. It's like people don't expect it and when you say it, it truly feels genuine.

Agent 488 · 03-02-2010, 11:28 AM

yup nothing says thank you like a bj.

VikingMan · 03-02-2010, 11:28 AM

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Originally Posted by cwd

If you were returning someone else's would you expect more than that?

No, I would never accept a reward for something like that. I would feel cheesy.

96ukssob · 03-02-2010, 11:29 AM

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Originally Posted by Juicy D. Links

give him a blowjob in the break room

ShellyCrash · 03-02-2010, 11:35 AM

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Originally Posted by candyflip

I'd give him some cash and let him decide what he wants to do with it. Maybe paying his phone bill is higher on his list than getting high.

This.

Tom_PM · 03-02-2010, 11:38 AM

Of course your thank you's should be enough. People should return things when found, it's the normal thing to do, in every generation.

I wouldnt treat it like he was a hero, or else it sends the message that simply doing the correct thing is somehow extraordinary. The news is constantly guilty of this.

I would thank him profusely which you have done, and probably offered to buy lunch or something and let him accept or decline on the spot as well. It's also the normal, nice thing to do.

VikingMan · 03-02-2010, 11:41 AM

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Originally Posted by PR_Tom

Of course your thank you's should be enough. People should return things when found, it's the normal thing to do, in every generation.

I wouldnt treat it like he was a hero, or else it sends the message that simply doing the correct thing is somehow extraordinary. The news is constantly guilty of this.

I would thank him profusely which you have done, and probably offered to buy lunch or something and let him accept or decline on the spot as well. It's also the normal, nice thing to do.

Yeah many people are actually offended if someone tries to give them money for doing the right thing.

amvcdotcom · 03-02-2010, 11:43 AM

If it were me and my finances were cool, I'd drop 50 bucks his way. Escaping the nightmare of cancelling all my credit cards, license replacement, etc. is worth that (and more)

Tom_PM · 03-02-2010, 11:51 AM

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Originally Posted by *******

Yeah many people are actually offended if someone tries to give them money for doing the right thing.

If it were me and you offered me money I'd just ask you to buy something for your kids or just pass it on.

I remember on one of the many moves my family made when I was a kid, my 4 brothers and I helped my dad and the movers move everything in. My dad handed the movers 100 bucks tip and he insisted that he split it among us kids. Was a cool deal. This was around 1974 or so.

Wasn't until years later that I learned that IBM paid every last cent of the relocation and moving and even meals for the week anyway.

iSpyCams · 03-02-2010, 11:58 AM

Buy him a gift. If you aren't comfortable buying him weed, buy him something you're comfortable with buying. It's less offensive than cash in any case.

Deej · 03-02-2010, 01:43 PM

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Originally Posted by *******

No, I would never accept a reward for something like that. I would feel cheesy.

Reflect on that... Perhaps he dosnt expect anything either.

if you have the serious need to drop a nug... just ask him the next time youre there if yhe wants to spark a spliff. You might gain a new friend from a simple nice gesture.

CarlosTheGaucho · 03-02-2010, 01:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Juicy D. Links

give him a blowjob in the break room

Imortyl Pussycat · 03-02-2010, 01:52 PM

i think it's always polite and proper to offer a little cash, even just $20, and let them refuse if they don't want it.

whore monger · 03-02-2010, 09:03 PM

i have to say the blow job is the best way of saying thanks, but if your not down for giving him one yourself send a whore in to blow him and tell him it was the guy that dropped the wallet that sent her. you will be his hero as people never forget a free blow job...

Spunky · 03-02-2010, 09:09 PM

Geez,didn't it cross your mind at all to atleast offer him a little money? you're damn lucky somebody didn't stiff you for a whole lot of headaches man

woj · 03-02-2010, 09:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Juicy D. Links

give him a blowjob in the break room

fatfoo · 03-02-2010, 09:13 PM

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Originally Posted by *******

a fat bud of chronic?

This substance could be legal or illegal depending on where you live. I think you should consider that.

Now, if you want to work on your social skills, I think that talking to the person face-to-face is what you want to do. Giving him chronic or money is not neccesarily going to help your social skills.

SmokeyTheBear · 03-02-2010, 09:20 PM

This is a common gypsy ploy. They steal your stuff then bring it back hoping for a fat reward, if they get none it's no loss.

but seriously , if you go there again maybe buy him a gift or lunch if you happen to catch him eating , if not no worries , if he is a decent guy he will feel good about the karma he got from returning your wallet.

hypedough · 03-02-2010, 10:13 PM

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Originally Posted by *******

Ok so I am shopping at my local slightly illegal hippie food market and my wallet falls out of my pocket. It contained all my credit cards, $300 cash, ID, etc. He finds me as I am about to walk out and hands it over to me.

This guy is like 50% black, has dread locks, and spends all day husking coconuts.

I thanked him 2 or 3 times and did not know what else to do so just left. Now I am wondering what if anything else I should do for him. Am I being an stereotyping asshole for wanting to give him a fat bud of chronic? (because he is part black/has dreads/gets paid under the table at a hippie market)

Or should I give him cash next time I see him? Or nothing?

I'm in LA, where is this spot?

comeplay · 03-02-2010, 10:18 PM

Just put a nug in a baggie or something not so obvious and when you see him next tell him you found this out on the sidewalk and that maybe he knows who dropped it. Will take away some legal liability if you happen across the one straight-edge hippie who isn't cool with a little bud.

Agent 488 · 03-03-2010, 04:53 AM

taking him for lunch or buying him a gift sound right queer.

Angry Jew Cat - Banned for Life · 03-03-2010, 05:00 AM

I would have fully rolled one up and blazed it with him there. Potheads appreciate that shit. If you got the impression he was a pothead, he was a fucking pothead, and at the hippie market? Fucker probably grows more than his own weight in weed.

alias · 03-03-2010, 05:05 AM

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Originally Posted by *******

Ok so I am shopping at my local slightly illegal hippie food market and my wallet falls out of my pocket. It contained all my credit cards, $300 cash, ID, etc. He finds me as I am about to walk out and hands it over to me.

This guy is like 50% black, has dread locks, and spends all day husking coconuts.

I thanked him 2 or 3 times and did not know what else to do so just left. Now I am wondering what if anything else I should do for him. Am I being an stereotyping asshole for wanting to give him a fat bud of chronic? (because he is part black/has dreads/gets paid under the table at a hippie market)

Or should I give him cash next time I see him? Or nothing?

Of course you should give him some weed, stereotypes are for those that can not transcend bullshit to reach the human animal beneath.

As far as social skills go, hanging out on 4chan /b/ will likely help with that. =p

03-02-2010, 11:22 AM	#1
VikingMan Exploiting human weakness Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: next to a salmon stream Posts: 6,528	GFY please help me out with my social skills (question) Ok so I am shopping at my local slightly illegal hippie food market and my wallet falls out of my pocket. It contained all my credit cards, $300 cash, ID, etc. He finds me as I am about to walk out and hands it over to me. This guy is like 50% black, has dread locks, and spends all day husking coconuts. I thanked him 2 or 3 times and did not know what else to do so just left. Now I am wondering what if anything else I should do for him. Am I being an stereotyping asshole for wanting to give him a fat bud of chronic? (because he is part black/has dreads/gets paid under the table at a hippie market) Or should I give him cash next time I see him? Or nothing? Last edited by VikingMan; 03-02-2010 at 11:26 AM..

03-02-2010, 11:27 AM	#4
candyflip Carpe Visio Industry Role: Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: New York Posts: 43,061	While I'd love a big fat bud of chronic for returning a lost wallet, I wouldn't want someone to assume that I'd want that big fat bud of chronic. I'd give him some cash and let him decide what he wants to do with it. Maybe paying his phone bill is higher on his list than getting high. __________________ Spend you some brain. Email Me

03-02-2010, 11:27 AM	#5
kristin GOO! Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: Back Home : ) Posts: 9,768	I think that you feel more compelled to do something since most people these days are douchebags. In 2010, most people don't think they would get their wallet returned to them, whereas 15 years ago it would have been expected. I have found that saying "please," "thank you," "have a nice day," go really far. It's like people don't expect it and when you say it, it truly feels genuine. __________________ Vacares rules. "Usually only fat guys have the kind of knowledge and ability that Kristin has."

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Tom_PM Porn Meister Industry Role: Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 16,443	Of course your thank you's should be enough. People should return things when found, it's the normal thing to do, in every generation. I wouldnt treat it like he was a hero, or else it sends the message that simply doing the correct thing is somehow extraordinary. The news is constantly guilty of this. I would thank him profusely which you have done, and probably offered to buy lunch or something and let him accept or decline on the spot as well. It's also the normal, nice thing to do. __________________ 43-922-863 Shut up and play your guitar.

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amvcdotcom i like kitties. Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Seattle & NC Posts: 886	If it were me and my finances were cool, I'd drop 50 bucks his way. Escaping the nightmare of cancelling all my credit cards, license replacement, etc. is worth that (and more) __________________ Email only: allen at/ amvc dotcom

03-02-2010, 11:25 AM	#2
cwd Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: In a dream Posts: 1,955	Shouldn't a heartfelt thank you be enough? If you were returning someone else's would you expect more than that?

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Juicy D. Links So Fucking Banned Industry Role: Join Date: Apr 2001 Location: N.Y. -Long Island -- Posts: 122,992	give him a blowjob in the break room

03-02-2010, 11:28 AM	#6
Agent 488 Registered User Industry Role: Join Date: Feb 2006 Posts: 22,511	yup nothing says thank you like a bj.

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iSpyCams Amateur Gynecologist Industry Role: Join Date: May 2009 Location: Medellin Posts: 4,436	Buy him a gift. If you aren't comfortable buying him weed, buy him something you're comfortable with buying. It's less offensive than cash in any case.

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Imortyl Pussycat Confirmed User Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Cali Posts: 5,449	i think it's always polite and proper to offer a little cash, even just $20, and let them refuse if they don't want it. __________________ Julie Larson julie {at} juicyads.com skype: imortylpussycat Buy & Sell Ads on The Most Sexy Advertising Network on the Planet available ad spots \| sign up now

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whore monger Confirmed User Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: fl Posts: 209	i have to say the blow job is the best way of saying thanks, but if your not down for giving him one yourself send a whore in to blow him and tell him it was the guy that dropped the wallet that sent her. you will be his hero as people never forget a free blow job... __________________ SIG TOO BIG! Maximum 120x60 button and no more than 3 text lines of DEFAULT SIZE and COLOR. Unless your sig is for a GFY top banner sponsor, then you may use a 624x80 instead of a 120x60.

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Spunky I need a beer Industry Role: Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: ♠ Toiletville ♠ Posts: 133,940	Geez,didn't it cross your mind at all to atleast offer him a little money? you're damn lucky somebody didn't stiff you for a whole lot of headaches man __________________ *YOUR INFORMATION HERE*

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SmokeyTheBear ►SouthOfHeaven Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: PlanetEarth MyBoardRank: GerbilMaster My-Penis-Size: extralarge MyWeapon: Computer Posts: 28,609	This is a common gypsy ploy. They steal your stuff then bring it back hoping for a fat reward, if they get none it's no loss. but seriously , if you go there again maybe buy him a gift or lunch if you happen to catch him eating , if not no worries , if he is a decent guy he will feel good about the karma he got from returning your wallet. __________________ hatisblack at yahoo.com

03-02-2010, 10:18 PM	#24
comeplay Confirmed User Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Greater Washington DC Posts: 1,435	Just put a nug in a baggie or something not so obvious and when you see him next tell him you found this out on the sidewalk and that maybe he knows who dropped it. Will take away some legal liability if you happen across the one straight-edge hippie who isn't cool with a little bud. __________________ Top virtual hosts for under 10$? www.hostmylife.com \| icq 50663030

03-03-2010, 04:53 AM	#25
Agent 488 Registered User Industry Role: Join Date: Feb 2006 Posts: 22,511	taking him for lunch or buying him a gift sound right queer.

03-03-2010, 05:00 AM	#26
Angry Jew Cat - Banned for Life (felis madjewicus) Industry Role: Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: In Mom & Dad's Basement Posts: 20,368	I would have fully rolled one up and blazed it with him there. Potheads appreciate that shit. If you got the impression he was a pothead, he was a fucking pothead, and at the hippie market? Fucker probably grows more than his own weight in weed.