Are you a parent ? Do you ever want to be a parent ? - Page 2 - GoFuckYourself.com

rowan · 09-23-2016, 08:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Scott McD

I'm 35. Not a parent and never want to be one. My wife however wants one kid.

What is your position on the topic ?? Many you got/want ?

To be really blunt: if you're fairly sure - even a bit uncertain - you don't want kids, stand firm. Once you make that decision, you're going to be stuck with the consequences for the next 20+ years. Even longer if you have a "problem" child (my sister is law is fortysomething and she's still leaning on her parents and making their life hell). This is not like moving to a new city for a job that turns out to be shitty; you cannot go back to the way things were when you realise things don't work out the way you planned. Don't be pressured into doing something you're going to regret.

If you talk and it suddenly seems like a good idea, don't go and fuck without a condom ten minutes later. Think about it the next day, and the next, and the next. There's no great rush.

arock10 · 09-23-2016, 09:27 PM

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Originally Posted by VikingMan

Having a child can restore your faith in humanity and it can be the most magical journey you will ever have the pleasure of in your lifetime. However it is EXPENSIVE. If your kid lands in the neo natal ICU at birth the bills are outrageous and if you have a kid with the wrong woman (like Brad Pit) it can cost you hundreds of thousands of dollars in attorney fees.

Any woman at any moment can make the decision to be a sociopath and all she has to do is say "I fear my safety and for the safetey of my children". Seriously this is all she has to keep repeating. She gets an attorney and that asshole will often not even require payment from her because that satanic goat molesting snake knows he or she can have the judge make the husband pay the legal bills. The attorney will coach her on what to say and almost certainly she will get whatever she wants which is to keep you away from your kids. Have fun paying thousands on Orwellian anger management/abuse classes, paying tens of thousands to hundreds of thousands on legal bills, have your career potentially ruined due to being labeled an abuser, and have your reputation damaged in addition to NOT SEEING YOUR KIDS. After all of the pain and fighting you might only end up with supervised visitation at a county facility with a cultural Marxist indoctrinated social worker with the IQ of a turnip who eyeballs you and scribbles things down while you interact with you kid.

EVERYONE should watch this video before having kids!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RrE3ptwP1XQ

God damn do you project

Rochard · 09-23-2016, 09:32 PM

The perks of having kids are great.... We just got back from a high school football game. What a great time.

gnawledge · 09-23-2016, 09:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Scott McD

I'm 35. Not a parent and never want to be one. My wife however wants one kid.

What is your position on the topic ?? Many you got/want ?

I have some friends who wouldn't change being a parent for the world, and some others who wish they had never went down that route and carried on life without having kids...

I have a 7-year-old girl. I'm going on 37. I measure my life before my daughter, and since she's been here. I am happier, I have a purpose and everything else in the world doesn't matter. When you see your kid smile at you for the first time, there's nothing like it.

When you and your wife do Christmas, Easter, Tooth Fairy and see the magic, you'll understand. I can't explain this to you since you don't see kids in this perspective YET.

But the innocence you experience looking at something that resembles you is amazing.

I wouldn't mind having more...

And you don't know how quickly you could kill until someone messes with your kid.

And the negatives: sleep deprivation, home body, if you have a girl; nail painting. Daycare , clothing, food.. eh.. nothing too negative.

VikingMan · 09-23-2016, 10:41 PM

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Originally Posted by arock10

God damn do you project

You are right but I am only projecting the part about goat molesting. Everything else is an accurate analysis of how these creatures are given free reign to abuse children. Did you watch the youtube video I posted?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RrE3ptwP1XQ

CHMOD · 09-23-2016, 11:54 PM

I am 44. My wife is 30 and she wants a kid. Honnestly said, I am afraid.
I am afraid to loose my liberty.
I am afraid to have an handicaped kid.
I am afraid to get an assohole kid, like my brother is.
I am afraid that I will be a bad father.

Aleksandra BongaCash · 09-24-2016, 12:43 AM

I love kids, their smiles, funny faces, so naive and innocent, you just can't help it.
Always wanted to have three kids and a lovely family 😋 and one day I will😀 but for now I'm really happy to nurse my nephews/nieces, friends' kids when I see them and it's enough cause I don't have much free time.

Perhaps, it's more about meeting the right person in your life and then there won't be any questions or fears about being a parent.

redwhiteandblue · 09-24-2016, 03:15 AM

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Originally Posted by RFremont

Right. Unless they turn out nothing like you.

In that case, suspect your wife of being a cheating bitch!

just a punk · 09-24-2016, 03:43 AM

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Originally Posted by Matyko

I am 37 with a 6 and a 9 yr old daughter. Being a family guy is the best thing in the world.

I'm just a few years older than you and my son is going to get a university Master degree this year

Scott McD · 09-24-2016, 03:46 PM

Is it selfish to say I don't want kids because I don't plan on being around until my shall we say "later years", which ultimately be unfair on the kid right ??

incredibleworkethic · 09-24-2016, 03:59 PM

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Originally Posted by CHMOD

I am 44. My wife is 30 and she wants a kid. Honnestly said, I am afraid.
I am afraid to loose my liberty.
I am afraid to have an handicaped kid.
I am afraid to get an assohole kid, like my brother is.
I am afraid that I will be a bad father.

Nice honesty!

I did a shit load of paid testing before mine was born. I didn't care about the gender, but the health. If the health was bad or a bad chance of baby having something terrible, I have no issues terminating. That's just my choice.

I've noticed that my boy is taking after the way of life the wife and I have been living. He seems to take on the environment. Very happy kid, sweet, and all that good shit.

If you're debating and think you'll regret it later, just DO IT. Once, just one kid and see if that's all you want.

Once that moment or possibly is gone, you have to jump through hoops to make it happen.

I suggest making sure the relationship you have has handled issues well in the past and financially you're set.

Good luck.

Freedom6995 · 09-24-2016, 08:16 PM

The world needs another child like a dog needs another flea.

CHMOD · 09-24-2016, 11:26 PM

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Originally Posted by incredibleworkethic

Nice honesty!

I did a shit load of paid testing before mine was born. I didn't care about the gender, but the health. If the health was bad or a bad chance of baby having something terrible, I have no issues terminating. That's just my choice.

I've noticed that my boy is taking after the way of life the wife and I have been living. He seems to take on the environment. Very happy kid, sweet, and all that good shit.

If you're debating and think you'll regret it later, just DO IT. Once, just one kid and see if that's all you want.

Once that moment or possibly is gone, you have to jump through hoops to make it happen.

I suggest making sure the relationship you have has handled issues well in the past and financially you're set.

Good luck.

Thanks man

BlackCrayon · 09-25-2016, 04:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Scott McD

Is it selfish to say I don't want kids because I don't plan on being around until my shall we say "later years", which ultimately be unfair on the kid right ??

Doesn't really matter if its selfish or not. If you think this way then yes, its best to not have kids. Kids don't need a parent who plans to drink themselves to death or whatever the reason might be for not being around in your 'later years'.

incredibleworkethic · 09-25-2016, 04:52 PM

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Originally Posted by CHMOD

Thanks man

No problem. We just finished bath time.

He takes his bottle and off to dreamland. Yes I still have time to work, workout and do shit. ;)

sicone · 09-25-2016, 04:54 PM

I have 1 son, had full custody of him since he was 2 when my ex and I divorced. He is now 17 (18 on Halloween) and a month ago started his 1st semester at Oklahoma State.

Yes kids are expensive and yes I had to sacrifice and miss out on some fun times with friends but I wouldn't change a thing, Getting to watch him grow from a helpless infant to the young man he is today has been the best journey of my life to date. And truth be told, even having a kid, I have still got to enjoy A LOT of awesome times both with him and without him

RummyBoy · 09-26-2016, 04:20 AM

So many people I know have kids for no other reason than because their friends have kids and because "its the done thing" and so many more find they cant support them. If you didn't consciously think about it, you shouldn't do it.

Danny B · 09-26-2016, 06:56 AM

35 here.
Never remotely considered having kids but life had other plans for me.
I have a 5 year old boy now and he's the best thing that ever happened to me.
If I could go back in time I wouldn't change a thing.

Ross · 09-26-2016, 12:22 PM

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Originally Posted by BlackCrayon

this is really something you should hash out before getting married. if one person wants a kid and the other doesn't no matter what way it goes there is a good chance someone will harbor resentment towards the other for either keeping them from having the family they've dreamed of or burden them with kids they never really wanted.

Things change. Women can not safely say they do not want kids and mean it, there is always a risk. The couple Scott is talking about (my friends too) the guy wanted kids badly, the woman had no intentions of ever having a child in her life. The guys sister had a new baby, first time the woman met said new baby, she wanted a kid, just like that.

Sadly it is not a happy home right now as has been said, which might have something to do with the wife making such a drastic switch to go from never to wanting. Who knows but all I know is women cannot say 100% they do not want a kid because it takes the tiniest of triggers to make them change their mind.

Jim_Gunn · 09-26-2016, 03:08 PM

I knew before I was even a teenager that I never wanted children. Just don't have any interest in them. It's great for other people, but I personally never wanted to follow the LifeScript™ that most people blindly follow by getting married, having children and buying a house. It's interesting how many people in this thread say they or their spouse didn't want children but now they have them as if by accident. I couldn't imagine undergoing such a radical life change and financial commitment by unplanned happenstance.

Robin · 09-26-2016, 11:52 PM

I'm 33 and my wife and I have a 4 year old boy. We're still thinking either to have a second one or not.
Having a kid might change a few things here and there in your life but is some wonderful and I can't imagine my life without my boy.
Is not entirely true that once you have a child you'll lose your freedom and radically change your life style. I'm still doing what I always liked to do, it's true that I cut some of the list but that comes with the age anyway. The only "bad" thing are the sleepless nights or when they get sick and you can't or don't know what to do to make them feel better.
Proud to be a dad!

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CHMOD Confirmed User Join Date: Jun 2003 Posts: 1,697	I am 44. My wife is 30 and she wants a kid. Honnestly said, I am afraid. I am afraid to loose my liberty. I am afraid to have an handicaped kid. I am afraid to get an assohole kid, like my brother is. I am afraid that I will be a bad father. __________________ Sell our Silicone Dolls and make big money! Our website: https://www.sexdolls-shop.com/ Signup: http://www.sexdollscash.com/sliiing/registration.php Contact: [email protected]

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RummyBoy Confirmed User Join Date: Dec 2009 Posts: 2,157	So many people I know have kids for no other reason than because their friends have kids and because "its the done thing" and so many more find they cant support them. If you didn't consciously think about it, you shouldn't do it.

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Danny B Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 4,423	35 here. Never remotely considered having kids but life had other plans for me. I have a 5 year old boy now and he's the best thing that ever happened to me. If I could go back in time I wouldn't change a thing. __________________ Danny B ICQ: 407485488 SKYPE: DAN-DEVELOPMENT

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Jim_Gunn Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Where The Teens Are Posts: 5,702	I knew before I was even a teenager that I never wanted children. Just don't have any interest in them. It's great for other people, but I personally never wanted to follow the LifeScript™ that most people blindly follow by getting married, having children and buying a house. It's interesting how many people in this thread say they or their spouse didn't want children but now they have them as if by accident. I couldn't imagine undergoing such a radical life change and financial commitment by unplanned happenstance. __________________ Jim Gunn Filming Cinematic Porn Skype JimGunnProductions

09-26-2016, 11:52 PM	#71
Robin Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Dec 2012 Location: Budapest Posts: 261	I'm 33 and my wife and I have a 4 year old boy. We're still thinking either to have a second one or not. Having a kid might change a few things here and there in your life but is some wonderful and I can't imagine my life without my boy. Is not entirely true that once you have a child you'll lose your freedom and radically change your life style. I'm still doing what I always liked to do, it's true that I cut some of the list but that comes with the age anyway. The only "bad" thing are the sleepless nights or when they get sick and you can't or don't know what to do to make them feel better. Proud to be a dad! __________________ Ovidiu aka Robin Business Development Manager www.affiliates.auroraglobal.com Skype: irip77