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baddog · 04-14-2007, 11:20 PM

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Originally Posted by spacedog

Sorry.. but a mental picture of a custody battle in court for a pair of dogs is funny

CA is a community property state.

pocketkangaroo · 04-14-2007, 11:22 PM

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Originally Posted by John Hughes

Is that what you've been TOLD by Mark and Belinda? Imagine that. The other side of the story is that I DO leave them alone. Please read this thread again. The ONLY thing I've contacted them about is business with the exception of the event I admitted to above. Other than that, it's been only about business and only as a last resort.

For awhile I didn't even know where to send Belinda's mail and she had been too lazy to put in for a change of address.

I've told her over and over and over to change her address with CCBill for checks yet they still arrive in her name.

These two don't want things to change as much as they let on. I think it's a fun game for them. Their relationship is founded on pure shit so if they have a common enemy (me) it somehow makes them feel closer or something.

There are two sides to every story. 3 in this case.

Thing is, I admit to my mistakes. I publicly write about them in my blog all the time. Read "The 19 Year Old Girl" on my blog. Or read the post I wrote where I admit to how bad I got that last year.

Mark and Belinda, on the other hand, like to stir crap behind the scenes. I'm out in the open. An open book. Mark's a master manipulator and you just might possibly be one of those manipulated.

Again, don't think he wouldn't do that to you if he'd do it to Lori after being with her 7 years and having kids together. You're nothin' special to him, my man.

All those things sound like a whole lot of "not your problem". If she doesn't forward her mail, return to sender. Her checks are not your poblem. The same goes for the car and whatever else you felt the need to do for her. She's a grown woman, if her car gets towed and stuck at an impound for a month, not your problem.

And as for her dating a guy who may be a jerk, abusive, or whatever. Again, not your problem. All those excuses to contact her are just that, excuses to contact her.

baddog · 04-14-2007, 11:22 PM

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Originally Posted by John Hughes

I have checks for her in my car that I haven't deposited.

The second paragraph: I don't want her back, but I will admit that I don't want her to think of me as the monster Mark's been trying to convince her that I am. So, yes, I do want her to think I'm still the same person I was for the 5 years before we met Mark. Not to get her back, but to let her see reality instead of the picture Mark's been painting.

You aren't the same person you were for the 5 years before you met Mark.

Why do you lie to yourself?

Shakula · 04-14-2007, 11:24 PM

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Originally Posted by John Hughes

Tell me where to email it so it can be posted. My URL's banned on GFY.

www.imageshack.us

baddog · 04-14-2007, 11:25 PM

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Originally Posted by John Hughes

Well you've been having them with SOMEONE because you post and hint at things you'd not be able to hint at otherwise. So it's either him or her. He's a proven liar and she's "blinded by love" right now and therefore willing to see everything through the rose colored glasses he slips on her face.

Bullshit. You are just so transparent that anyone that is paying attention can see thru you. I don't "hint" at shit, never have.

Just like your suicidal tendancies comment . . . I saw that coming a mile away and never visited anyone's myspace account

John Hughes · 04-14-2007, 11:25 PM

Here's the thing:

I'm on an adult board and I've made lots of enemies here. No matter what I say, the two of them will come on later and refute it all and you'll all believe them instead of me. This is just a waste of time. I think I'll just log off and watch a movie.

Believe what you wish. Yep, I'm a bit off my rocker. That's what happens to someone who gets their heart broken. Belinda was everything to me and I intended to be with her for life. Watching her fall in love with another man over the course of 18 months, fighting to make that stop and not being successful, then losing everything I've owned (including my dogs) and starting over with really screwed up credit, having all my "friends" completely abandon me... all that will do things to a person. But I'm dealing. I've been going to counseling and attempting to make new memories.

So what if I'm involved in church? Isn't the adult industry supposed to be "open minded"? Does that open mindedness only extend to those who are "like minded"? It certainly seems that way.

And even if I was bashing the industry, like so many insist, have I hurt any of your paychecks with my words?

So by all means, please wait for Mark and Belinda to come back on and tell all of you how screwed up I am. How crazy I am. Then just believe it. Don't go back and compare anything I've written to what they say, just believe them. Have fun with that.

Mark's a very charming person. He's great with words and persuasion. He'll have you seeing things his way without any problem. Sorry, I'm not as slick as him.

I'm out for now. I'm not promising I won't be back but I really shouldn't be. Besides, I'll be locked out again somehow, I'm sure.

'Night for now...

Shakula · 04-14-2007, 11:26 PM

baddog shut the fuck up, you are over 70 years old, what the fuck are you still doing here you? You are the most pathetic guy here without any drama.
Go to the fucking park and feed the birds.

baddog · 04-14-2007, 11:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Shakula

baddog shut the fuck up, you are over 70 years old, what the fuck are you still doing here you? You are the most pathetic guy here without any drama.
Go to the fucking park and feed the birds.

I'm sorry . . . who are you?

Axeman · 04-14-2007, 11:31 PM

Donny,

Seriously its time to stop interacting with either of them for any reason. Stop blogging about them which I am sure they read and don't like having out in the open for all to read. Which then causes retaliation and threads like this.

Stop depositing the checks for her. For anything business related its time to get a third party involved that will be the go between to handle the last few items that come up until a clean break is had.

There should be Zero reason for you to contact either of them going foward, all it does is cause issues.

You all deserve to just go your separate ways and get on with life. This BS solves nothing and just keeps prolonging the problem and your ultimate misery.

Probably will fall on deaf ears but hey....

Shakula · 04-14-2007, 11:31 PM

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Originally Posted by baddog

I'm sorry . . . who are you?

A person who doesnt want to hangout on forums such as GFY at age 70.
You must really have a terrible life, yet you try so hard, SO HARD to tell the GFY´ers about your life.

"Today i had lunch with my daughter.."
"Im going to spend christmas with my son, who works as a firefighter..."

You need confirmation from GFY´ers, you are truely a sick bastard.
Move on grandpa. Face it, your children are ashamed of you.
Who wouldnt be.

baddog · 04-14-2007, 11:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Shakula

A person who doesnt want to hangout on forums such as GFY at age 70.

Why don't you start by leaving now?

John Hughes · 04-14-2007, 11:35 PM

Actually, I'm pretty tempted to just start shredding all mail that comes no matter if it looks like a check or not. No use spending money to forward it or to pay some legal person to be a go between. I'm tired of dealing with it. The back seat of my car is covered with her mail. I could shred it, bag it up and give it to my friend John (who owns this nickname) to use as fire starter for his wood stove. That would be of better use.

Okay, stop posting for a few minutes so I stop feeling compelled to reply. Hee Hee. I want to watch this movie I rented.

This thread will explode when Belinda and Mark get home, I'm sure. But they probably won't let me reply anymore.

'Night.

Axeman · 04-14-2007, 11:36 PM

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Originally Posted by John Hughes

Actually, I'm pretty tempted to just start shredding all mail that comes no matter if it looks like a check or not. No use spending money to forward it or to pay some legal person to be a go between. I'm tired of dealing with it. The back seat of my car is covered with her mail. I could shred it, bag it up and give it to my friend John (who owns this nickname) to use as fire starter for his wood stove. That would be of better use.

Okay, stop posting for a few minutes so I stop feeling compelled to reply. Hee Hee. I want to watch this movie I rented.

This thread will explode when Belinda and Mark get home, I'm sure. But they probably won't let me reply anymore.

'Night.

That would be a federal crime. Write Return to Sender on it, put it back in your box and be done with it.

- Brent

KrisKross · 04-14-2007, 11:38 PM

Donny, I've been in your shoes before. I've been heartbroken. My boyfriend of nearly five years left me for another girl after I found out he'd been cheating on me. This is a man I loved with all my heart, someone I fully expected to marry and spend my life with. We lived together and worked on a few online projects together.

For months, I was devastated. Bitter, deceived, angry, hurt, jealous, you name it. There'd be phone calls, emails, journal entries, etc. Often, I'd call him with the excuse of dealing with "leftover business"... some sites, mail addressed to him, belongings he left, etc. But once that issue was handled, the call would quickly degrade to "How the fuck could you do this to me?" or "Why can't we give it a second chance?". There were calls from him too. Sometimes, he'd call or email. He'd tell me he was unhappy with her, that he missed me, that he was sorry. Sometimes, I was stupid enough to meet up with him. I'd get all dressed, do my make up, do my hair, thinking he'd want me back. Instead, we'd just fuck and he'd drive me home.

After months and months of depression and erratic behaviour, my friends finally had enough. They refused to stop seeing me until I cut off all contact with him. They promised to do anything they could until he was out of my life.

Slowly, I stopped the phone calls, emails, blog entries, etc. I ignored all his contact attempts. I didn't read his emails and I deleted his voice mails. I even went so far as to block his blog using parental controls. All letters to him went in the garbage. Any affiliate accounts we used together were transferred under his name or canceled. All domains were transferred to him. All belongings he left were trashed.

It took two months before this was all done. And it was hard as hell. But once he finally stopped calling, I felt free. I felt amazing. This was a few years ago. Sure, I still think about him. And sometimes, I still feel a little bitter or nostalgic. But it no longer controls my life. And you know what? Recently, we ran in to each other at an event. We were civil and even chit-chatted for a while. He added me to his MSN a couple of days later and now we talk from time to time. We'll never be best friends and we'll never get back together, but we can at least be friendly with each other.

So just write this girl out of your life. Cut off all contact with her. Stop trying to be the good guy. Move on. Time WILL heal all wounds.

John Hughes · 04-14-2007, 11:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Axeman

That would be a federal crime. Write Return to Sender on it, put it back in your box and be done with it.

- Brent

If it could be proven. But if it's used as firestarter, well, it would just be "lost in the mail" somewhere....

'Night.

PS: I won't shred her mail. It's just an amusing idea.

Shakula · 04-14-2007, 11:39 PM

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Originally Posted by baddog

Why don't you start by leaving now?

Because by the time i hit your age (that you are today) your children has already died because of age. You see how stupid all this is?

You are here telling someone that, that person is doing something wrong and painting a picture of him that makes him look pathetic.

You seriously need a realitycheck, people are laughing and making jokes about you behind your back about your situation. Yet you are to blind to see this.

Like i said, hit the park and feed the fucking birds. Hook up with some woman in your age and take her to the park too. You probably have less then 5 years left.

pocketkangaroo · 04-14-2007, 11:39 PM

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Originally Posted by John Hughes

So what if I'm involved in church? Isn't the adult industry supposed to be "open minded"? Does that open mindedness only extend to those who are "like minded"? It certainly seems that way.

It has nothing to do with the church. There are a lot of people who are in the industry and are devout Christians. I think it might have a little more to do with the fact that you tied yourself to a group that is openly anti-porn.

And I think this board doesn't like hypocrisy. You "turned your life over to God", yet went about doing a lot of things that aren't very Christ like. Harassing people, divulging personal details of people, discussing intimate private details of someone else's sex life, libeling them, and continuing to try and be part of an industry that you feel is evil.

I'm not exactly sure where I heard these things, but it may be something you should look into.

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Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another.

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For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.

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And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.

baddog · 04-14-2007, 11:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Shakula

You seriously need a realitycheck, people are laughing and making jokes about you behind your back about your situation.

My situation?

pocketkangaroo · 04-14-2007, 11:41 PM

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Originally Posted by John Hughes

Actually, I'm pretty tempted to just start shredding all mail that comes no matter if it looks like a check or not. No use spending money to forward it or to pay some legal person to be a go between. I'm tired of dealing with it. The back seat of my car is covered with her mail. I could shred it, bag it up and give it to my friend John (who owns this nickname) to use as fire starter for his wood stove. That would be of better use.

Okay, stop posting for a few minutes so I stop feeling compelled to reply. Hee Hee. I want to watch this movie I rented.

This thread will explode when Belinda and Mark get home, I'm sure. But they probably won't let me reply anymore.

'Night.

Committing a federal offense is very Christ-like too. Why not just write "RETURN TO SENDER" on the envelope, leave it in your mailbox, and go on with life?

xlogger · 04-14-2007, 11:44 PM

John Hughes · 04-14-2007, 11:45 PM

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Originally Posted by KrisKross

Donny, I've been in your shoes before. I've been heartbroken. My boyfriend of nearly five years left me for another girl after I found out he'd been cheating on me. This is a man I loved with all my heart, someone I fully expected to marry and spend my life with. We lived together and worked on a few online projects together.

For months, I was devastated. Bitter, deceived, angry, hurt, jealous, you name it. There'd be phone calls, emails, journal entries, etc. Often, I'd call him with the excuse of dealing with "leftover business"... some sites, mail addressed to him, belongings he left, etc. But once that issue was handled, the call would quickly degrade to "How the fuck could you do this to me?" or "Why can't we give it a second chance?". There were calls from him too. Sometimes, he'd call or email. He'd tell me he was unhappy with her, that he missed me, that he was sorry. Sometimes, I was stupid enough to meet up with him. I'd get all dressed, do my make up, do my hair, thinking he'd want me back. Instead, we'd just fuck and he'd drive me home.

After months and months of depression and erratic behaviour, my friends finally had enough. They refused to stop seeing me until I cut off all contact with him. They promised to do anything they could until he was out of my life.

Slowly, I stopped the phone calls, emails, blog entries, etc. I ignored all his contact attempts. I didn't read his emails and I deleted his voice mails. I even went so far as to block his blog using parental controls. All letters to him went in the garbage. Any affiliate accounts we used together were transferred under his name or canceled. All domains were transferred to him. All belongings he left were trashed.

It took two months before this was all done. And it was hard as hell. But once he finally stopped calling, I felt free. I felt amazing. This was a few years ago. Sure, I still think about him. And sometimes, I still feel a little bitter or nostalgic. But it no longer controls my life. And you know what? Recently, we ran in to each other at an event. We were civil and even chit-chatted for a while. He added me to his MSN a couple of days later and now we talk from time to time. We'll never be best friends and we'll never get back together, but we can at least be friendly with each other.

So just write this girl out of your life. Cut off all contact with her. Stop trying to be the good guy. Move on. Time WILL heal all wounds.

Sounds familiar.

By the way, Belinda's not really a bad person at all. I understand how she got to where she's at, and it's mostly my fault.

Mark, on the other hand, is a pile of steaming dog crap in my opinion. I don't hate him, but he's not a good person IMHO.

I just want to make it clear that all the bad I've said about Belinda was fueled out of pain from being hurt. Many of my poor decisions in this issue are because I felt like I could keep her from being hurt by him. I realize I can do NOTHING for her. It took awhile to accept that because we were so close for so long. My mind couldn't grasp that it was all over.

Belinda hurt me, but most of that was brought on by stupid decisions *I* made. I wish her nothing but good, which she will never find with him (or me).

Okay goodnight. Hopefully for real this time.

John Hughes · 04-14-2007, 11:48 PM

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Originally Posted by pocketkangaroo

It has nothing to do with the church. There are a lot of people who are in the industry and are devout Christians. I think it might have a little more to do with the fact that you tied yourself to a group that is openly anti-porn.

And I think this board doesn't like hypocrisy. You "turned your life over to God", yet went about doing a lot of things that aren't very Christ like. Harassing people, divulging personal details of people, discussing intimate private details of someone else's sex life, libeling them, and continuing to try and be part of an industry that you feel is evil.

I'm not exactly sure where I heard these things, but it may be something you should look into.

Nobody said I was Jesus Christ. I've never claimed to be perfect. I know more than any how far I am from being what a Christian SHOULD be. I'm very slowly changing. VERY slowly. It could go faster if I made better choices, but it's going.

if I was trying to come off as being perfect I wouldn't write so much about my faults all over my blog.

Damn it, I've said goodnight several times and then hit the button to reply again.

Good. Night.

Shakula · 04-14-2007, 11:50 PM

DONNY
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Jon Clark - BANNED FOR LIFE · 04-14-2007, 11:51 PM

Dude, give it a rest..

She is a fucking female.. They are a dime a dozen...

All you are doing is fueling the fire, if you just ignore them and this, it will eventually go away..

Find yourself a new girl to start a new life with, it is really not that hard

Jon Clark - BANNED FOR LIFE · 04-14-2007, 11:52 PM

Dude, give it a rest..

She is a fucking female.. They are a dime a dozen...

All you are doing is fueling the fire, if you just ignore them and this, it will eventually go away..

Find yourself a new girl to start a new life with, it is really not that hard

TDF · 04-15-2007, 12:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Aric

I think you're confusing 'Poll:" with "Sticky:".

it was stickied first...

Aussie Rebel · 04-15-2007, 12:34 AM

Donny sorry but someone has to say it man, HARDEN THE FUCK UP!!

Persignup Qon · 04-15-2007, 12:54 AM

as much pussy as there is in the world, where is there a 4-page gfy discussion over ONE?

hezochiah · 04-15-2007, 01:38 AM

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Originally Posted by John Hughes

So what if I'm involved in church? Isn't the adult industry supposed to be "open minded"? Does that open mindedness only extend to those who are "like minded"? It certainly seems that way.

Dude, come on now. Do you realize how bass ackwards that statement right there is. You're complaining about an adult message board not being open minded with you regarding being involved in church but yet the church is one of the most close minded institutions in the world. I swear some people are completely blinded by organized religion it's not even funny.

JD · 04-15-2007, 01:40 AM

holy shit i was late on this one

Klen · 04-15-2007, 05:34 AM

Funny drama for sunday noon

Violetta · 04-15-2007, 08:01 AM

Im just glad my life is not that complicated.

tony286 · 04-15-2007, 08:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Rockatansky

Im just glad my life is not that complicated.

Amen brother

v4 media · 04-15-2007, 09:10 AM

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Originally Posted by Jon Clark

Dude, give it a rest..

She is a fucking female.. They are a dime a dozen...

All you are doing is fueling the fire, if you just ignore them and this, it will eventually go away..

Find yourself a new girl to start a new life with, it is really not that hard

You become more of an asshole with every post you make.. hmm a designer that's just lost any work from any other female again... clever eh?

Scootermuze · 04-15-2007, 09:18 AM

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Originally Posted by John Hughes

So what if I'm involved in church?

As for what you're going through... Been there, done that, got a t-shirt..
as have many of us..

Learn from what those with experience tell you..

1. Return all of her mail to sender... ALL OF IT!
2. Have the truck towed if it's still there..
3. Take any of her personal stuff to her aunt's place.. if there is any..
4. Delete any email from her without reading it..
5. Hang up if it's her.
6. Remove yourself from this board as you have no further reason for being here.. Then it won't matter who says what about you.. Why should it be important to you what people on GFY think...

No matter who may be right or wrong in this situation... REMOVE YOURSELF FROM THE EQUASION!
There is no need to contact them/her for any reason from this point on..
As for the beagles... go get yourself another one.

As for your involvement in church.. If you're now a practicing christian, then practice it! As the song goes... "Jesus Take The Wheel"..
Forgive those who you feel are down on you, then move on... Burn the bridge..

Trying to defend yourself on GFY makes no sense whatsoever. You're allowing it to matter when it shouldn't..

Bottom line... Someone in the trio needs to be a responsible party... Let it be you, then accept your situation as a new start to bigger and better things.. Walk away and don't look back or you're just allowing others to control you.. not a good thing..

Luck

tony286 · 04-15-2007, 09:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Scootermuze

As for what you're going through... Been there, done that, got a t-shirt..
as have many of us..

Learn from what those with experience tell you..

1. Return all of her mail to sender... ALL OF IT!
2. Have the truck towed if it's still there..
3. Take any of her personal stuff to her aunt's place.. if there is any..
4. Delete any email from her without reading it..
5. Hang up if it's her.
6. Remove yourself from this board as you have no further reason for being here.. Then it won't matter who says what about you.. Why should it be important to you what people on GFY think...

No matter who may be right or wrong in this situation... REMOVE YOURSELF FROM THE EQUASION!
There is no need to contact them/her for any reason from this point on..
As for the beagles... go get yourself another one.

As for your involvement in church.. If you're now a practicing christian, then practice it! As the song goes... "Jesus Take The Wheel"..
Forgive those who you feel are down on you, then move on... Burn the bridge..

Trying to defend yourself on GFY makes no sense whatsoever. You're allowing it to matter when it shouldn't..

Bottom line... Someone in the trio needs to be a responsible party... Let it be you, then accept your situation as a new start to bigger and better things.. Walk away and don't look back or you're just allowing others to control you.. not a good thing..

Luck

Excellent post, it says it all.

baddog · 04-15-2007, 10:42 AM

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Originally Posted by KrisKross

Donny, I've been in your shoes before. I've been heartbroken. My boyfriend of nearly five years left me for another girl after I found out he'd been cheating on me. This is a man I loved with all my heart, someone I fully expected to marry and spend my life with. We lived together and worked on a few online projects together.

Why did I always think you were a guy?

CDSmith · 04-15-2007, 10:44 AM

Always fun and amusing to see adults acting like children and vice-versa.

Donny, isn't it time to be the bigger man and just move on? Extricate yourself rom this mess and shut the door on this chapter of your life for good, period. As hard as it is to do it will be worth it in the long run, trust me.

Unless... unless you three like this drama... ongoing, neverending anger, etc.

If so ignore this post and have at it. :D

baddog · 04-15-2007, 10:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Scootermuze

As for what you're going through... Been there, done that, got a t-shirt..
as have many of us..

Learn from what those with experience tell you..

1. Return all of her mail to sender... ALL OF IT!
2. Have the truck towed if it's still there..
3. Take any of her personal stuff to her aunt's place.. if there is any..
4. Delete any email from her without reading it..
5. Hang up if it's her.
6. Remove yourself from this board as you have no further reason for being here.. Then it won't matter who says what about you.. Why should it be important to you what people on GFY think...

No matter who may be right or wrong in this situation... REMOVE YOURSELF FROM THE EQUASION!
There is no need to contact them/her for any reason from this point on..
As for the beagles... go get yourself another one.

As for your involvement in church.. If you're now a practicing christian, then practice it! As the song goes... "Jesus Take The Wheel"..
Forgive those who you feel are down on you, then move on... Burn the bridge..

Trying to defend yourself on GFY makes no sense whatsoever. You're allowing it to matter when it shouldn't..

Bottom line... Someone in the trio needs to be a responsible party... Let it be you, then accept your situation as a new start to bigger and better things.. Walk away and don't look back or you're just allowing others to control you.. not a good thing..

Luck

Pretty good Cliff's Notes

Ross · 04-15-2007, 10:59 AM

I wonder what the top dogs at adult.com think of their employee bring all this bullshit to the board. Yes this forum is called Fucking Around And Programme Discussion. But this guy isn't reflecting too well on his company.

Time for all three of you to grow up, sort shit out and leave each other alone to get on with your lives.

Deej · 04-15-2007, 11:00 AM

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Originally Posted by Ross

I wonder what the top dogs at adult.com think of their employee bring all this bullshit to the board. Yes this forum is called Fucking Around And Programme Discussion. But this guy isn't reflecting too well on his company.

Time for all three of you to grow up, sort shit out and leave each other alone to get on with your lives.

they like traffic

Scootermuze · 04-15-2007, 11:01 AM

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Originally Posted by CDSmith

Unless... unless you three like this drama... ongoing, neverending anger, etc.
If so ignore this post and have at it. :D

I should have probably closed with that in my other post..

I remember all the advice I was given years ago while I was going through all the emotional stuff.. It's easy to say when on the oustide looking in, but not as easy to do when you're the one going through it..

I think the one thing that finally turned me around was a complete stranger sitting next to us at the bar where I was crying in my beer.. All he said was, "I'm gonna have to move or you're gonna have to realize that her personal life is no longer any of your damned business"

It caught me off guard, pissed me off, but he was right.. Made me think a whole different way and it got lots easier all of a sudden..

Was funny that with all the advice, it took some half drunk guy spitting out 1 little line that did it..

CDSmith · 04-15-2007, 11:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Scootermuze

I should have probably closed with that in my other post..

I remember all the advice I was given years ago while I was going through all the emotional stuff.. It's easy to say when on the oustide looking in, but not as easy to do when you're the one going through it..

I think the one thing that finally turned me around was a complete stranger sitting next to us at the bar where I was crying in my beer.. All he said was, "I'm gonna have to move or you're gonna have to realize that her personal life is no longer any of your damned business"

It caught me off guard, pissed me off, but he was right.. Made me think a whole different way and it got lots easier all of a sudden..

Was funny that with all the advice, it took some half drunk guy spitting out 1 little line that did it..

I hope you bought him a drink.

DWB · 04-15-2007, 11:06 AM

Someone needs to find a hobby....

Scootermuze · 04-15-2007, 11:11 AM

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Originally Posted by CDSmith

I hope you bought him a drink.

Actually, he managed to pull the conversation totally away from my pitty party and turned it into a great time.. He was a trip.. and yes.. several of his drinks were on me..

Strange thing was... I never saw him in there before that, nor after that.. Kinda like he was there for a reason... [Insert Twilight Zone sound here]

BlackCrayon · 04-15-2007, 12:19 PM

donny, if you really want her to wonder and think about if she has made the right decision, ignore her. act like it doesn't effect you, like she wasn't as important to you as she though. this drives women insane, of course its a bit late for that now but as others have said, many have been in your shoes making the same mistakes you've made but often times once you leave them alone, they start to really think.

sicone · 04-15-2007, 02:32 PM

Wow... this is getting uglier and uglier

Scootermuze · 04-15-2007, 04:02 PM

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Originally Posted by BlackCrayon

donny, if you really want her to wonder and think about if she has made the right decision, ignore her. act like it doesn't effect you, like she wasn't as important to you as she though. this drives women insane, ........

At this point he shouldn't be the least bit concerned whether she thinks her decision was right or not.. She made the decision and it's hers to live with... not his..
No sense in him sitting around wondering if she'll regret her move and maybe reunite with him.. That'd just prevent him from getting on with his life..

I think he just needs to put it all down and walk away from it completely..
Churches have some hotties sittin' in those pews.. He'll be ok if he allows himself to be so..

My biggest wonder is why in the Hell I keep coming back into this thread..

Deej · 04-15-2007, 04:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Scootermuze

My biggest wonder is why in the Hell I keep coming back into this thread..

god works in mysterious ways

DateDoc · 04-15-2007, 06:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Deej

god works in mysterious ways

he sure does

04-14-2007, 11:31 PM	#159
Axeman Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Swamp Posts: 5,201	Donny, Seriously its time to stop interacting with either of them for any reason. Stop blogging about them which I am sure they read and don't like having out in the open for all to read. Which then causes retaliation and threads like this. Stop depositing the checks for her. For anything business related its time to get a third party involved that will be the go between to handle the last few items that come up until a clean break is had. There should be Zero reason for you to contact either of them going foward, all it does is cause issues. You all deserve to just go your separate ways and get on with life. This BS solves nothing and just keeps prolonging the problem and your ultimate misery. Probably will fall on deaf ears but hey.... __________________ XXXRewards - Karups - Boyfun - Jawked. Paying on time since 1997. Contact me at brent [at] xxxrewards.com

04-14-2007, 11:38 PM	#164
KrisKross Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Canada Posts: 5,024	Donny, I've been in your shoes before. I've been heartbroken. My boyfriend of nearly five years left me for another girl after I found out he'd been cheating on me. This is a man I loved with all my heart, someone I fully expected to marry and spend my life with. We lived together and worked on a few online projects together. For months, I was devastated. Bitter, deceived, angry, hurt, jealous, you name it. There'd be phone calls, emails, journal entries, etc. Often, I'd call him with the excuse of dealing with "leftover business"... some sites, mail addressed to him, belongings he left, etc. But once that issue was handled, the call would quickly degrade to "How the fuck could you do this to me?" or "Why can't we give it a second chance?". There were calls from him too. Sometimes, he'd call or email. He'd tell me he was unhappy with her, that he missed me, that he was sorry. Sometimes, I was stupid enough to meet up with him. I'd get all dressed, do my make up, do my hair, thinking he'd want me back. Instead, we'd just fuck and he'd drive me home. After months and months of depression and erratic behaviour, my friends finally had enough. They refused to stop seeing me until I cut off all contact with him. They promised to do anything they could until he was out of my life. Slowly, I stopped the phone calls, emails, blog entries, etc. I ignored all his contact attempts. I didn't read his emails and I deleted his voice mails. I even went so far as to block his blog using parental controls. All letters to him went in the garbage. Any affiliate accounts we used together were transferred under his name or canceled. All domains were transferred to him. All belongings he left were trashed. It took two months before this was all done. And it was hard as hell. But once he finally stopped calling, I felt free. I felt amazing. This was a few years ago. Sure, I still think about him. And sometimes, I still feel a little bitter or nostalgic. But it no longer controls my life. And you know what? Recently, we ran in to each other at an event. We were civil and even chit-chatted for a while. He added me to his MSN a couple of days later and now we talk from time to time. We'll never be best friends and we'll never get back together, but we can at least be friendly with each other. So just write this girl out of your life. Cut off all contact with her. Stop trying to be the good guy. Move on. Time WILL heal all wounds. __________________

04-14-2007, 11:44 PM	#170
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04-15-2007, 12:54 AM	#178
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04-15-2007, 08:01 AM	#182
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04-14-2007, 11:25 PM	#156
John Hughes Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: California Posts: 177	Here's the thing: I'm on an adult board and I've made lots of enemies here. No matter what I say, the two of them will come on later and refute it all and you'll all believe them instead of me. This is just a waste of time. I think I'll just log off and watch a movie. Believe what you wish. Yep, I'm a bit off my rocker. That's what happens to someone who gets their heart broken. Belinda was everything to me and I intended to be with her for life. Watching her fall in love with another man over the course of 18 months, fighting to make that stop and not being successful, then losing everything I've owned (including my dogs) and starting over with really screwed up credit, having all my "friends" completely abandon me... all that will do things to a person. But I'm dealing. I've been going to counseling and attempting to make new memories. So what if I'm involved in church? Isn't the adult industry supposed to be "open minded"? Does that open mindedness only extend to those who are "like minded"? It certainly seems that way. And even if I was bashing the industry, like so many insist, have I hurt any of your paychecks with my words? So by all means, please wait for Mark and Belinda to come back on and tell all of you how screwed up I am. How crazy I am. Then just believe it. Don't go back and compare anything I've written to what they say, just believe them. Have fun with that. Mark's a very charming person. He's great with words and persuasion. He'll have you seeing things his way without any problem. Sorry, I'm not as slick as him. I'm out for now. I'm not promising I won't be back but I really shouldn't be. Besides, I'll be locked out again somehow, I'm sure. 'Night for now...

04-14-2007, 11:26 PM	#157
Shakula So Fucking Banned Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 948	baddog shut the fuck up, you are over 70 years old, what the fuck are you still doing here you? You are the most pathetic guy here without any drama. Go to the fucking park and feed the birds.

04-14-2007, 11:35 PM	#162
John Hughes Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: California Posts: 177	Actually, I'm pretty tempted to just start shredding all mail that comes no matter if it looks like a check or not. No use spending money to forward it or to pay some legal person to be a go between. I'm tired of dealing with it. The back seat of my car is covered with her mail. I could shred it, bag it up and give it to my friend John (who owns this nickname) to use as fire starter for his wood stove. That would be of better use. Okay, stop posting for a few minutes so I stop feeling compelled to reply. Hee Hee. I want to watch this movie I rented. This thread will explode when Belinda and Mark get home, I'm sure. But they probably won't let me reply anymore. 'Night.

04-14-2007, 11:50 PM	#173
Shakula So Fucking Banned Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 948	DONNY WWW.IMAGESHACK.US UPLOAD NOW

04-14-2007, 11:51 PM	#174
Jon Clark - BANNED FOR LIFE North Coast Pimp Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: 304-534-757 Posts: 9,395	Dude, give it a rest.. She is a fucking female.. They are a dime a dozen... All you are doing is fueling the fire, if you just ignore them and this, it will eventually go away.. Find yourself a new girl to start a new life with, it is really not that hard

04-14-2007, 11:52 PM	#175
Jon Clark - BANNED FOR LIFE North Coast Pimp Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: 304-534-757 Posts: 9,395	Dude, give it a rest.. She is a fucking female.. They are a dime a dozen... All you are doing is fueling the fire, if you just ignore them and this, it will eventually go away.. Find yourself a new girl to start a new life with, it is really not that hard

04-15-2007, 12:34 AM	#177
Aussie Rebel Blow Me U Geeks Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Maximum Security Posts: 5,108	Donny sorry but someone has to say it man, HARDEN THE FUCK UP!!

04-15-2007, 01:40 AM	#180
JD Too lazy to set a custom title Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 22,651	holy shit i was late on this one

04-15-2007, 05:34 AM	#181
Klen Industry Role: Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Little Vienna Posts: 32,235	Funny drama for sunday noon

04-15-2007, 10:44 AM	#188
CDSmith Too lazy to set a custom title Industry Role: Join Date: May 2001 Location: My network is hosted at TECHIEMEDIA.net ...Wait, you meant where am I located at? Oh... okay, I'm in Winnipeg, Canada. Oops. :) Posts: 51,460	Always fun and amusing to see adults acting like children and vice-versa. Donny, isn't it time to be the bigger man and just move on? Extricate yourself rom this mess and shut the door on this chapter of your life for good, period. As hard as it is to do it will be worth it in the long run, trust me. Unless... unless you three like this drama... ongoing, neverending anger, etc. If so ignore this post and have at it. :D __________________ *Promote Wildmatch, ImLive, Sexier.com, and more!!* ALWAYS THE HIGHEST PAYOUTS: Big Bux/ImLive SIGNUP ON NOW!!! Put some PUSSYCA$H in your pocket. ICQ me at: 31024634

04-15-2007, 10:59 AM	#190
Ross Ik ben een aap Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: Traffic Force Towers, Canada! Posts: 18,874	I wonder what the top dogs at adult.com think of their employee bring all this bullshit to the board. Yes this forum is called Fucking Around And Programme Discussion. But this guy isn't reflecting too well on his company. Time for all three of you to grow up, sort shit out and leave each other alone to get on with your lives.

04-15-2007, 11:06 AM	#194
DWB Registered User Industry Role: Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Encrypted. Access denied. Posts: 31,779	Someone needs to find a hobby....

04-15-2007, 12:19 PM	#196
BlackCrayon Too lazy to set a custom title Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Ottawa Posts: 19,631	donny, if you really want her to wonder and think about if she has made the right decision, ignore her. act like it doesn't effect you, like she wasn't as important to you as she though. this drives women insane, of course its a bit late for that now but as others have said, many have been in your shoes making the same mistakes you've made but often times once you leave them alone, they start to really think. __________________ you don't know you're wearing a leash if you sit by the peg all day..

04-15-2007, 02:32 PM	#197
sicone Retired Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Sac Posts: 18,453	Wow... this is getting uglier and uglier __________________