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Old 04-14-2007, 10:19 PM   #101
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who's brenda ? Is she hot ? single?
Think she broke up with Dylan awhile back. Might be single.





Edit: 100 psycho ex-boyfriends...F U Buster Bunny!
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Old 04-14-2007, 10:21 PM   #102
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Think she broke up with Dylan awhile back. Might be single.





Edit: 100 psycho ex-boyfriends...F U Buster Bunny!
Damn she was hot in that show.
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3 self destructive tards united again... again airing dirty laundry in a public forum... again.. "its not my fault this is on a public forum"

people who are fucked in the head... seek out other people who are fucked in the head for relationships. the 3 of you need help. or 2 of you need jesus. or one of you needs a .22 and a bullet.
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Old 04-14-2007, 10:22 PM   #104
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Most of the phone calls and messages from me were out of frustration over stuff like this. I couldn't believe they were being so juvenile. SPANNOW is older than me, yet he acts just as immature as her. Moreso, actually. Most of our issues could have been resolved with CIVIL phone calls or a face-to-face sit down. I invited Belinda to bring Mark up to Redding or for me to come down there but they both thought it would be much easier to just be ridiculously immature about it.

Yes, there was a message sent to her myspace page about suicide. I won't deny that. But I did NOT say I was going to commit suicide if she didn't respond. I told her "I tried checking into a hospital today because I was feeling suicidal. I really could use a friend to talk to". (read my blog entry that was posted today if you want to hear more about that the url is banned here, though. just do a google search for donny's ramblings). That was a HUGE mistake. HUGE. Instead, she had a good laugh with him. But I was so emotional at the time I thought she'd actually care and talk to me. I don't want her back, but needed a friend that day. Dumb dumb dumb to think she could be it, but after you're with someone so long you think they might care enough to listen when you need a shoulder, know what i mean?

Anyway, I am not saying I've not done some stupid stuff, but it is WAY overblown by these two and the things they've done.
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Old 04-14-2007, 10:25 PM   #106
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Most of the phone calls and messages from me were out of frustration over stuff like this. I couldn't believe they were being so juvenile. SPANNOW is older than me, yet he acts just as immature as her. Moreso, actually. Most of our issues could have been resolved with CIVIL phone calls or a face-to-face sit down. I invited Belinda to bring Mark up to Redding or for me to come down there but they both thought it would be much easier to just be ridiculously immature about it.

Yes, there was a message sent to her myspace page about suicide. I won't deny that. But I did NOT say I was going to commit suicide if she didn't respond. I told her "I tried checking into a hospital today because I was feeling suicidal. I really could use a friend to talk to". (read my blog entry that was posted today if you want to hear more about that the url is banned here, though. just do a google search for donny's ramblings). That was a HUGE mistake. HUGE. Instead, she had a good laugh with him. But I was so emotional at the time I thought she'd actually care and talk to me. I don't want her back, but needed a friend that day. Dumb dumb dumb to think she could be it, but after you're with someone so long you think they might care enough to listen when you need a shoulder, know what i mean?

Anyway, I am not saying I've not done some stupid stuff, but it is WAY overblown by these two and the things they've done.
Unless the breakup is mutual ex's can not be friends.
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Old 04-14-2007, 10:25 PM   #107
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Most of the phone calls and messages from me were out of frustration over stuff like this. I couldn't believe they were being so juvenile. SPANNOW is older than me, yet he acts just as immature as her. Moreso, actually.
dude, at your age he being older than you is not an excuse. That only works when one party is 6 and the other is 13.

Move on.
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Touché Donny! More credits to you now!

Gimme mark´s myspace now
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Oh, and Baddog, you don't help much. You used to be my friend, now you're the "good ol' boy" for Mark. You know Lori, though. Ask yourself if she'd lie. Then talk to her. Don't just take Mark's word for things. Much of what Belinda tells you comes from HIS interpretation of events. He's proven that he'll lie to the woman he was with for 7 years and who bore him a son. What makes you think he won't lie to you?
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dude, at your age he being older than you is not an excuse. That only works when one party is 6 and the other is 13.

Move on.
are they not both is thier 30's ?
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The more Donny posts, the more I'm inclined to agree with Pleasurepays. You're all fucking nuts!

All of this My Space talk has me giggling though. I thought My Space drama was for 13 year old girls arguing over who saw Bobby Simmons first.
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Old 04-14-2007, 10:27 PM   #113
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Gimme mark´s myspace now
He changed it. I took a screen shot before he did but my url is banned so it won't show. His myspace page has a pic of both of them.

It's a tough one to guess:

http://www.myspace.com/spannow
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I can own up to my choices. In all these threads involving Donny, how many of them have you seen me or SPANNOW reply to? HE is the one that contiues to make it all public. Not me, not SPANNOW. He contiues to attack and we let him attack for a very long time. Now we are still suppose to just sit back and let him do it. Ignoring does no good cause he does not go away.
Sorry... but it was spannow that made your love triangle a public spectacle on gfy, not donny.
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He changed it. I took a screen shot before he did but my url is banned so it won't show. His myspace page has a pic of both of them.

It's a tough one to guess:

http://www.myspace.com/spannow
Donny, can you upload the screenshoot somewhere? Like on your blog or something?
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Oh, and Baddog, you don't help much. You used to be my friend, now you're the "good ol' boy" for Mark. You know Lori, though. Ask yourself if she'd lie. Then talk to her. Don't just take Mark's word for things. Much of what Belinda tells you comes from HIS interpretation of events. He's proven that he'll lie to the woman he was with for 7 years and who bore him a son. What makes you think he won't lie to you?
You are an idiot. You have no idea what I have told Mark. I am nobodies "good ol' boy," and in fact have told him to do exactly the opposite of what he is doing.

When I tell you to move on I tell you as a friend, but because it isn't what you want to hear . . . .
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The more Donny posts, the more I'm inclined to agree with Pleasurepays. You're all fucking nuts!

All of this My Space talk has me giggling though. I thought My Space drama was for 13 year old girls arguing over who saw Bobby Simmons first.
Yep, I agree. We're all nuts.

I get pretty frustrated sometimes, though. One example: I messaged a friend in the business a few days before the phoenix forum. I wanted her opinion on a shirt I wore to an event we had at a church. We were civil and everything was good. Then she gets back from Phoenix and I message her. She replies telling me not to waste my breath and that she's blocking me on ICQ. I have no idea what Mark and Belinda said to her but she and her husband, who used to be my friends and would come stay at my home all the way from Florida, now will not talk to me.

That's not uncommon. Whoever Belinda and Mark talk to begin not wanting to talk to me anymore.

The only exception is Belinda's aunt. Belinda asked her to take me off her friends list and never talk to me again. She saw me after that and told me she knows I'm not crazy like Belinda tells her. She knows I'm still me, just with a broken heart. She stayed on my friends list and told me she'd still have me over for dinner sometimes.

That's Belinda's aunt, who knows me better than anyone on these adult boards. Belinda tried to get her to turn against me, but I've been nothing but good to them and she hasn't done so. Believe me, she loves her niece and will always put her first, but she just wasn't buying the whole "donny's crazy" bit that mark and belinda are trying to paint.
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I get pretty frustrated sometimes, though. One example: I messaged a friend in the business a few days before the phoenix forum. I wanted her opinion on a shirt I wore to an event we had at a church. We were civil and everything was good. Then she gets back from Phoenix and I message her. She replies telling me not to waste my breath and that she's blocking me on ICQ. I have no idea what Mark and Belinda said to her but she and her husband, who used to be my friends and would come stay at my home all the way from Florida, now will not talk to me.
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Yep, I agree. We're all nuts.

I get pretty frustrated sometimes, though. One example: I messaged a friend in the business a few days before the phoenix forum. I wanted her opinion on a shirt I wore to an event we had at a church. We were civil and everything was good. Then she gets back from Phoenix and I message her. She replies telling me not to waste my breath and that she's blocking me on ICQ. I have no idea what Mark and Belinda said to her but she and her husband, who used to be my friends and would come stay at my home all the way from Florida, now will not talk to me.

That's not uncommon. Whoever Belinda and Mark talk to begin not wanting to talk to me anymore.

The only exception is Belinda's aunt. Belinda asked her to take me off her friends list and never talk to me again. She saw me after that and told me she knows I'm not crazy like Belinda tells her. She knows I'm still me, just with a broken heart. She stayed on my friends list and told me she'd still have me over for dinner sometimes.

That's Belinda's aunt, who knows me better than anyone on these adult boards. Belinda tried to get her to turn against me, but I've been nothing but good to them and she hasn't done so. Believe me, she loves her niece and will always put her first, but she just wasn't buying the whole "donny's crazy" bit that mark and belinda are trying to paint.

Lets say i believe everything in this post my question is then why the fuck do you still talk to her or have anything to do with her ?

If any female pulled the shit you are implying in this post she would be gone no matter what it took from my life.
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Lets say i believe everything in this post my question is then why the fuck do you still talk to her or have anything to do with her ?

If any female pulled the shit you are implying in this post she would be gone no matter what it took from my life.
Because he would rather be a tormented martyr.
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On a serious note, I thought you guys took care of all legal matters when you were still living together? And if you didn't, why not?

You lived together for a while after breaking up if I recall correctly. Were it me, the legal issues would have been top priority.
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Lets say i believe everything in this post my question is then why the fuck do you still talk to her or have anything to do with her ?

If any female pulled the shit you are implying in this post she would be gone no matter what it took from my life.
BTW, great seeing you, and thanks for joining us. We had a blast. Hope you did not lose too much. I know I did not envy you the next day having to be somewhere at 8 AM, I was dragging all day.
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Lets say i believe everything in this post my question is then why the fuck do you still talk to her or have anything to do with her ?

If any female pulled the shit you are implying in this post she would be gone no matter what it took from my life.
Honestly, here it is:

1. I don't talk to her too much. A little, but not much. Very little, actually. We were together 6 years, from the time she was 19 until she was 25. I watched her change a lot. She had a tough childhood and I really loved her. I am stupid enough to think that most of what has happened is because Mark is a controlling asshole that is telling her what to think, and that much of this crap isn't coming from HER, but from him. He's admitted himself that he's a very jealous person.

2. Mark's ex told me to watch for certain things happening, and what those certain things meant. I've seen her exact words happen to Belinda and it scares the hell out of me. Perhaps I shouldn't care, but I do.

3. Ego. I hate that she left me for him. Pure and simple.

4. Despite all these, I gave up a long time ago and things were lying pretty dormant. Mark recently roused them again. I contacted him 3 times over the course of a week asking him to stop, but I really think he was trying to force something to happen. That way he can make it look like I was messing with them again.
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BTW, great seeing you, and thanks for joining us. We had a blast. Hope you did not lose too much. I know I did not envy you the next day having to be somewhere at 8 AM, I was dragging all day.
was a blast thanks for dinner remind goodgirl to send me text/url for her link i got up fine the next day a little tired working a convention all weekend heading to bed in a few got to be back up tomorow at 8am not used to waking up that early

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Yes I thought that was a bit of a silly comment.
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On a serious note, I thought you guys took care of all legal matters when you were still living together? And if you didn't, why not?

You lived together for a while after breaking up if I recall correctly. Were it me, the legal issues would have been top priority.
There were still a lot of loose ends. Much more than anticipated. Belinda was lucky enough to move out of the area and to her out of sight is out of mind.

And up until she started making it clear that she wanted to be with Mark (which was after she moved out) the plan had always been to take a break from each other and try again in a few months. We both thought some breathing room would do us good and we'd be able to work things out.

But then she decided to move in with Mark, and everything went downhill even more than it already was.
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Honestly, here it is:

1. I don't talk to her too much. A little, but not much. Very little, actually. We were together 6 years, from the time she was 19 until she was 25. I watched her change a lot. She had a tough childhood and I really loved her. I am stupid enough to think that most of what has happened is because Mark is a controlling asshole that is telling her what to think, and that much of this crap isn't coming from HER, but from him. He's admitted himself that he's a very jealous person.

2. Mark's ex told me to watch for certain things happening, and what those certain things meant. I've seen her exact words happen to Belinda and it scares the hell out of me. Perhaps I shouldn't care, but I do.

3. Ego. I hate that she left me for him. Pure and simple.

4. Despite all these, I gave up a long time ago and things were lying pretty dormant. Mark recently roused them again. I contacted him 3 times over the course of a week asking him to stop, but I really think he was trying to force something to happen. That way he can make it look like I was messing with them again.
I have been in a similar situation to you before i have learned the best way to get over someone is to not call them, talk to them, or see them till you get to the point you dont give a fuck any more does not matter if it takes 6 days or 6 years to do the sooner you realize that you need to stop talking to her and having anything to do with her the better off you will be.
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I have been in a similar situation to you before i have learned the best way to get over someone is to not call them, talk to them, or see them till you get to the point you dont give a fuck any more does not matter if it takes 6 days or 6 years to do the sooner you realize that you need to stop talking to her and having anything to do with her the better off you will be.
That's the best advice yet. Sitting around tormenting yourself by e-mailing, calling, and keeping up-to-date on every detail of the other person's life is just unhealthy. Just close off that person and that life and move on to new things.
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I have been in a similar situation to you before i have learned the best way to get over someone is to not call them, talk to them, or see them till you get to the point you dont give a fuck any more does not matter if it takes 6 days or 6 years to do the sooner you realize that you need to stop talking to her and having anything to do with her the better off you will be.
Sometimes I also want to know how my dogs are doing. If a man will grab his own small child by the hair and drag him across a table, if he'll pick that child up by the neck and pin him to the wall while screaming at him, if he'll do that same thing to his step daughter... who know what he'll do to my Beagles.

By the way, I have no proof that Mark did those things to his children. That's just what his ex told me and said her parents witnessed it too. So please don't think I'm slandering him. She said it happened. I've known her awhile and don't think she lies. My Beagles can be very challenging at times and I can see such a person hurting them. I've asked how the dogs are a few times and if it didn't seem so ridiculous I'd have asked the courts for doggy visitation rights but that seems like a stupid thing to go to court for. I'd rather just ask once in awhile.

Recently I was scared because there was a dog thread posted here on GFY and Belinda posted a photo of only one dog, the female. I'm wondering if that's because something happened to the male. Those are the types of thoughts that go through my head. What happened to Andy? He's probably just fine, but Belinda normally posts pics of both dogs 'cause she's proud of them.

Yeah, silly. I feel silly for worrying about Beagles, but those two dogs are wonderful creatures. They have such an awesome personality.

I wish she'd give them to her mom so I'd know they were safe. She could still see them once in awhile.

Yeah, dumb. I know.
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That's the best advice yet. Sitting around tormenting yourself by e-mailing, calling, and keeping up-to-date on every detail of the other person's life is just unhealthy. Just close off that person and that life and move on to new things.
he has been given this advice on multiple occasions . . . . it is not what he wants to hear
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Sometimes I also want to know how my dogs are doing. If a man will grab his own small child by the hair and drag him across a table, if he'll pick that child up by the neck and pin him to the wall while screaming at him, if he'll do that same thing to his step daughter... who know what he'll do to my Beagles.

By the way, I have no proof that Mark did those things to his children. That's just what his ex told me and said her parents witnessed it too. So please don't think I'm slandering him. She said it happened. I've known her awhile and don't think she lies. My Beagles can be very challenging at times and I can see such a person hurting them. I've asked how the dogs are a few times and if it didn't seem so ridiculous I'd have asked the courts for doggy visitation rights but that seems like a stupid thing to go to court for. I'd rather just ask once in awhile.

Recently I was scared because there was a dog thread posted here on GFY and Belinda posted a photo of only one dog, the female. I'm wondering if that's because something happened to the male. Those are the types of thoughts that go through my head. What happened to Andy? He's probably just fine, but Belinda normally posts pics of both dogs 'cause she's proud of them.

Yeah, silly. I feel silly for worrying about Beagles, but those two dogs are wonderful creatures. They have such an awesome personality.

I wish she'd give them to her mom so I'd know they were safe. She could still see them once in awhile.

Yeah, dumb. I know.
Now you are just making excuses. Take her to fucking court for custody if it is that big of a deal.
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Sometimes I also want to know how my dogs are doing. If a man will grab his own small child by the hair and drag him across a table, if he'll pick that child up by the neck and pin him to the wall while screaming at him, if he'll do that same thing to his step daughter... who know what he'll do to my Beagles.

By the way, I have no proof that Mark did those things to his children. That's just what his ex told me and said her parents witnessed it too. So please don't think I'm slandering him. She said it happened. I've known her awhile and don't think she lies. My Beagles can be very challenging at times and I can see such a person hurting them. I've asked how the dogs are a few times and if it didn't seem so ridiculous I'd have asked the courts for doggy visitation rights but that seems like a stupid thing to go to court for. I'd rather just ask once in awhile.

Recently I was scared because there was a dog thread posted here on GFY and Belinda posted a photo of only one dog, the female. I'm wondering if that's because something happened to the male. Those are the types of thoughts that go through my head. What happened to Andy? He's probably just fine, but Belinda normally posts pics of both dogs 'cause she's proud of them.

Yeah, silly. I feel silly for worrying about Beagles, but those two dogs are wonderful creatures. They have such an awesome personality.

I wish she'd give them to her mom so I'd know they were safe. She could still see them once in awhile.

Yeah, dumb. I know.

yea you just dont get it i feel sorry for you i really do hope you figure it out soon nothing good will happen for you till you do.

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Wow, some pretty serious charges being made in this thread........
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Is that what you've been TOLD by Mark and Belinda? Imagine that. The other side of the story is that I DO leave them alone. Please read this thread again. The ONLY thing I've contacted them about is business with the exception of the event I admitted to above. Other than that, it's been only about business and only as a last resort.

For awhile I didn't even know where to send Belinda's mail and she had been too lazy to put in for a change of address.

I've told her over and over and over to change her address with CCBill for checks yet they still arrive in her name.

These two don't want things to change as much as they let on. I think it's a fun game for them. Their relationship is founded on pure shit so if they have a common enemy (me) it somehow makes them feel closer or something.

There are two sides to every story. 3 in this case.

Thing is, I admit to my mistakes. I publicly write about them in my blog all the time. Read "The 19 Year Old Girl" on my blog. Or read the post I wrote where I admit to how bad I got that last year.

Mark and Belinda, on the other hand, like to stir crap behind the scenes. I'm out in the open. An open book. Mark's a master manipulator and you just might possibly be one of those manipulated.

Again, don't think he wouldn't do that to you if he'd do it to Lori after being with her 7 years and having kids together. You're nothin' special to him, my man.
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Ahaha, ok, now that potential child abuse claims have been made, I expect this thread to be deleted by morning.
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Now you are just making excuses. Take her to fucking court for custody if it is that big of a deal.



Sorry.. but a mental picture of a custody battle in court for a pair of dogs is funny
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Uh... so stop making the deposits. She would change awful quick once she stopped getting the money.

Do you deposit the checks in hopes of her realizing what a "great guy" you were even during these times so that when and if they break up she'll come back crying to you? Sounds like it.

I would not go out of my way to help a woman that broke my heart unless I was stupid enough to think I could get her back.
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Ahaha, ok, now that potential child abuse claims have been made, I expect this thread to be deleted by morning.
I very clearly said that's just something his ex said to me. I clearly stated I have no proof that it is true.

But you're right: that will be a great excuse to lock the thread or delete it completely.



And baddog, the dogs are just things I worry about. I didn't contact Belinda to ask why Andy wasn't pictured. I was just rambling about the thoughts that passed through my head.
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Uh... so stop making the deposits. She would change awful quick once she stopped getting the money.

Do you deposit the checks in hopes of her realizing what a "great guy" you were even during these times so that when and if they break up she'll come back crying to you? Sounds like it.

I would not go out of my way to help a woman that broke my heart unless I was stupid enough to think I could get her back.

I have checks for her in my car that I haven't deposited.

The second paragraph: I don't want her back, but I will admit that I don't want her to think of me as the monster Mark's been trying to convince her that I am. So, yes, I do want her to think I'm still the same person I was for the 5 years before we met Mark. Not to get her back, but to let her see reality instead of the picture Mark's been painting.
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Is that what you've been TOLD by Mark and Belinda?
NO, IT IS WHAT I HAVE BEEN TELLING YOU FOR MONTHS.

Why the fuck you think I have discussions with him about you is beyond me.
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lets see that myspace picture of spannow´s page
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NO, IT IS WHAT I HAVE BEEN TELLING YOU FOR MONTHS.

Why the fuck you think I have discussions with him about you is beyond me.
Well you've been having them with SOMEONE because you post and hint at things you'd not be able to hint at otherwise. So it's either him or her. He's a proven liar and she's "blinded by love" right now and therefore willing to see everything through the rose colored glasses he slips on her face.

It's amazing to see the "revelations" she's come to see after being with him. He takes the good things we had and twists them into somehow being bad. Once it was obvious she was going to swallow all his BS I stopped trying to tell her anything except business (with the exception I mentioned earlier in this thread) long ago.
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Tell me where to email it so it can be posted. My URL's banned on GFY.
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For awhile I didn't even know where to send Belinda's mail and she had been too lazy to put in for a change of address.
return to sender always worked for me

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I used to read what you wrote on your blog and I told you what I thought of it. Pure bullshit. Get off the fucking cross, you are becoming one of the most un-Christian people I know


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